Gypsy Woman

Five Years and Counting...

2012-02-12T14:53:00.000-05:00

Wow. Today is my five year rezz day in Second Life.

Things have changed so much since I logged in that day. Mostly, I think I've changed.

So many friends have come and gone - and so many still remain.

I can't even begin to list the people that have touched my life and been a party of my Second Life journey. I walked into a club five years ago called Roll Over Beethoven, and I met some of the most amazing people ever. I was also exposed to an entirely new world of music - as evidenced by the insanity that is my iPod.

From that day on, I've been into countless clubs, seen so many different DJs, met so many people, had so many jobs, worn SO MANY OUTFITS. LOL.

But I can honestly say that the last two years of my second life have been so....relaxed and laid back. I feel like I've finally slipped into this amazing place where life's back to being all about the music and the company. No drama, no issues, no pressure. Kinda like, I grew up and got past so much of what was making me a train wreck years ago.

I've been so blessed in my lives (first and second) to have made a friend like Beverly. A truer friend I could never have asked for. The kindness, love and absolutely non-judgmental friendship she offers is so rare and live saving.

And to still have the pleasure of sharing my world with people like Borday, Crighton, Ehric (all three of these guys from my first days in SL!), Cisqo, Bill, Nina, Parker, Quiet, Ayn, Hart, Prez, Joonie, Yordie, Abel, Leanna, Deylan, BigD, Cal, Heal, and Mikki (please forgive me if I missed anyone) whether through RL, in-world or this blog is amazing. I'm honored to still keep in touch with and continue my friendships with so many outstanding people.

Over the last five years, so many unique and colorful people have come through my life. Some pass through and color it for a moment, while others have left their imprint for years to come. Wacky, Kaarlton, Cal, Kemi, Peng, Kim - just a few of the people I'm sad to let go of, but happy to have had in my life, and wish nothing but the best for.

I've always tried to share my 'life lessons' here - so many others can avoid the pitfalls I fell into. But the reality is that you need to experience some of these heartbreaks to become stronger and smarter. Sometimes, some experiences are ones you need to have for yourself to truly understand.

I guess what I'm trying to say to everyone (and I do mean everyone - my old friends and new friends) is thank you. Thank you for everything. Thank you for the good, the bad, the love, the hate, the fights, the make-ups, the jokes, the music and above all else, thank you for being a part of my life.

With that, I leave you all with a parting song...one that I loved hearing when I first joined SL five years ago.

We'll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don't need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

I don't quite know
How to say
How I feel

Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

Let's waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads

I need your grace
To remind me
To find my own

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we’re told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

All that I am
All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes, they're all I can see

I don't know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things will never change for us at all

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

-Chasing Cars, Snow Patrol

XOXO,
Bliss

Goodbye Whitney...

2012-02-11T23:10:00.000-05:00

How sad.

An incredible talent lost and a life cut short.

This album was the first album my sister and I ever bought with our pooled allowance money.

I wish her the peace in death that eluded her in life.

B

Happy Super Bowl Sunday!!!

2012-02-05T13:30:00.000-05:00

Regardless of who you're cheering on today, I hope you have a safe and fantastic Super Bowl Sunday!

As for me..

They're not my beloved Jets, but come on..it's still New York.

Let's go GIANTS!

XOXO,
B

Undead and.....A Series (of crap) By Mary Janice Davidson

2012-02-05T01:45:00.000-05:00

Okay, so seriously..I loved this series.

Loved.

As in the past tense.

I have stuck with this series and this author for a few years now......and I gotta say.

This book is so seriously fucked up at this point, they should just kill everyone in the book and start over.

The lunacy. The redundancy. The complete lack of respect for the reader.

What started out as a great series..turned to crap. Serious..hardcore CRAP.

Every book repeats the same thing over and over and over. I guess to catch a reader up that's starting in the middle of the series (what asshole does that?). But for me, it happened so MUCH in the book, it was sickening.

And then! And THEN! The 9th part of the series..has her completely.......for lack of a better term....FUCKING THE WHOLE STORY UP!

WHAT!

Killing Sinclair!

WHAT! WHAT!

Dear Mary Janice Davidson. I would kick you in the knee RIGHT now if I could.

RIGHT. NOW.

Their romance was seriously ALL that made the book worth reading.

And now........

Well.

Fuck you. I'm not reading parts 10 and 11.

Because that's a shitty way to treat your readers, and your characters would kick you too, I'm sure.

Pardon my late night rants. But seriously. What..the fuck!?

B

Domestic Violence and Abuse: On the Outside Looking In..

2012-02-03T00:05:00.002-05:00

Sometimes, love doesn't work out the way we imagined it out. Sometimes....people say and do things that can leave us very confused and hurt. Sometimes emotionally, and sometimes....physically. And in many cases, it's us looking in at another relationship, watching a friend or loved one suffer in silence that's really the scenario.

Between 600,000 and 6 million women are victims of domestic violence each year, and between 100,000 and 6 million men, depending on the type of survey used to obtain the data. (SOURCE: http://www.dvrc-or.org/domestic/violence/resources/C61/)

If there are signs of abuse, then paying careful attention is the most important thing you can do to help someone. Because we all know..they don't come in the form of HELP written across a mirror. Don't be silent. DO open the lines of communication. Don't mind your business. DO ask your friend/loved one if they are okay. Don't pass judgement or make sweeping generalizations. DO make them feel safe and comfortable enough to talk and let you in.

Sometimes, a helping hand can make all the difference.

Safe Horizon provides the following handy guide..

Some signs of domestic violence and abuse are more obvious than others; these are few of the

most common...

Does your partner ever…

1. Accuse you of cheating and being disloyal?

2. Make you feel worthless?

3. Hurt you by hitting, choking or kicking you?

4. Intimidate and threaten to hurt you or someone you love?

5. Threaten to hurt themselves if they don’t get what they want?

6. Try to control what you do and who you see?

7. Isolate you?

8. Pressure or force you into unwanted sex?

9. Control your access to money?

10. Stalk you, including calling you constantly or following you?

IF YOU SUSPECT that someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or relationship abuse…
- Get Information

- Get Resourches

- Get Them Help!

There are many places you can go to for help, including Safe Horizon (http://www.safehorizon.org/index.php), which is the nation’s leading victim assistance organization and serves over 250,000 people each year who have been impacted by violence. Whether they are responding to child abuse, domestic violence, or other violent crimes, they help victims and their families heal and rebuild their lives.

If you are a New York City resident in need of crisis assistance, call one of our 24-hour toll-free hotlines. If you are outside of New York, please refer to the Additional Resources page.

Domestic Violence Hotline: 800.621.HOPE (4673)
Crime Victims Hotline: 866.689.HELP (4357)
Rape, Sexual Assault & Incest Hotline: 212.227.3000 OR 866.689.HELP (4357)
TDD phone number for all hotlines: 866.604.5350

You can also email for help at help@safehorizon.org. If it is a non-emergency situation and you would prefer to email us, please allow 72 hours for a response. For immediate assistance, please call us at 800.621.4673 instead of using email.

(all information taken from http://www.safehorizon.org/index.php)

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XOXO,

Bliss

Your Right to Choose..Who You Donate To......

2012-02-02T17:23:00.002-05:00

I try (mostly) to keep my political views to myself. Mostly because I think at the end of the day all it does it cause trouble.

But I've just got to say...I'm extremely disappointed in the Susan G. Komen Foundation for cutting funding to Planned Parenthood. I'm even more disappointed in the fact that it's 2012 and the concept of a woman deciding what she does or doesn't do to her body is still up for debate.

Seriously?

If Ms. Handel really did cut funding to the POOR for potentially lifesaving testing, namely mammograms, then she (especially as a woman) should be ashamed of herself. And if possible, she should revolt herself as much as she revolts me.

It's one thing to draw a pro-life/pro-choice line in life..in politics..in spirituality. But it's another thing to deprive innocent people of resources that may not otherwise be available to them. When you're "mission" is to help save lives and help defeat cancer.....and then you cut the funding for the poor - then what's your true mission, Susan G. Komen Foundation? Is it to only help the people that share your political views? Or only to help the people that are able to fund your activities?

Well. Thanks, but no thanks. I'll donate my money elsewhere. Like..the American Cancer Society or the Avon Foundation for Women.

In other news? Kudos to Mayor Bloomberg. Some days..he reminds me of why I voted for him. NYC Mayor Bloomberg Steps Up.

Even WITH health insurance, mammograms are expensive (which is just insane). Imagine if you didn't HAVE insurance? Imagine if the one resource you did have for a free mammogram was taken away because the same establishment also conducted SAFE abortions. Just so you know, Unsafe Abortions are on the Rise GLOBALLY.

I'm not saying you have to support Planned Parenthood. I am, however, saying that you should stop for a moment and think about the opportunities people with money have......and the opportunities people withOUT money DON'T have. And then consider the role YOU want to play in that tricky little scale of life. I'm not looking to limit options and turn this into a world where someone has to choose between paying for a mammogram or feeding their kids. Because I know what their choice will be...and I know (firsthand) what the potentially devastating risk could lead to.

Well. Sorry if I've upset any of my pro-life friends. But really..if you're my friend, you understand my take on abortion. I'm not pro-abortion, kids. We all know I'm eagerly waiting to be a mother one day. But I am pro-CHOICE. Regardless of what *I* am capable of doing, the choice should be made available to all women - regardless of age, race, religion, political affiliation and FINANCIAL STATUS.

And as a parting thought...though Komen says they pulled funding because PP was under investigation for using funds for abortions and their corporate policy was to not support any entity under investigation...they continued (and continue) to support Penn State even through the sex abuse investigation....Read More Here..

Just some food for thought.

And now that I've sufficiently worked myself up......I think I'm going to sign off.

XOXO,
B

30,000 Feet Up......

2012-01-30T23:18:00.000-05:00

Even 30,000 feet up.....my town is still the best town.

B

My Lovely Lady Lumps: Part 2 - Educate Yourself

2012-01-21T14:55:00.005-05:00

Self exams are a great start. But they're not all you should be doing.

Your second line of defense is your DOCTOR. Some people only see the doctor when they have a problem. The reality is, you should go for regular check-ups.

Here's the Blissie Boucher guide for your annual doctor visits:

1. Before visiting your doctor, make a list of any and all questions or concerns you may have. Doctor doesn't have time to sit down and speak to you before or after your exam? You may want to consider getting a new doctor. Nobody knows your body better than YOU do - so if you feel like something isn't right, you need to speak up.

2. Get your regular tests. Yes, they're uncomfortable and downright invasive! But. They can SAVE YOUR LIFE. Blood, urine, pap, mammogram, pelvic. Suck it up and get them done regularly. Do your research before going to the doctor, so you're aware of what the tests involve.

What is a Pap test?

The Pap test, also called a Pap smear, checks for changes in the cells of your cervix. The cervix is the lower part of the uterus (womb) that opens into the vagina (birth canal). The Pap test can tell if you have an infection, abnormal (unhealthy) cervical cells, or cervical cancer.

A Pap test can save your life. It can find the earliest signs of cervical cancer. If caught early, the chance of curing cervical cancer is very high. Pap tests also can find infections and abnormal cervical cells that can turn into cancer cells. Treatment can prevent most cases of cervical cancer from developing.
Getting regular Pap tests is the best thing you can do to prevent cervical cancer. In fact, regular Pap tests have led to a major decline in the number of cervical cancer cases and deaths.

For more information, you can visit womenshealth.gov or use this handy link to the PAP Test Fact Sheet.

What is a mammogram?

A mammogram is a low-dose x-ray exam of the breasts to look for changes that are not normal. The results are recorded on x-ray film or directly into a computer for a doctor called a radiologist to examine.
A mammogram allows the doctor to have a closer look for changes in breast tissue that cannot be felt during a breast exam. It is used for women who have no breast complaints and for women who have breast symptoms, such as a change in the shape or size of a breast, a lump, nipple discharge, or pain. Breast changes occur in almost all women. In fact, most of these changes are not cancer and are called “benign,” but only a doctor can know for sure. Breast changes can also happen monthly, due to your menstrual period.

For more information, you can visit womenshealth.gov or use this handy link to the Mammogram Fact Sheet .

Now you know.

What will YOU do with this information?

Until next time,
B

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My Lovely Lady Lumps: Part 1 - Knowing Them

2012-01-03T21:16:00.003-05:00

Okay, let's face it. Boys and girls love the lady lumps. :) But like with all things, you've got to perform maintenance.

The Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation recommends a 3-step approach to breast cancer screening that includes, depending on a woman's age, a combination of mammography, clinical breast exams and breast self-exams.

Monthly breast self-exam beginning by age 20.
Clinical breast exam at least every 3 years beginning at age 20, and annually from age 40 on.
Annual screening mammograms beginning at age 40.

Women with a family history of breast cancer or other concerns about their personal risk should consult with a health care provider. Screening tests may need to be done more often and/or started earlier than usual.
As part of a total approach to breast health, women should become familiar with own bodies, play an active role in their health, and develop a close partnership with their health care providers. (www.checkyourboobies.org)

Did you hear that? Learn your own body. There's nothing perverted or gross about it. How will you know if a strange lump forms....if you don't know your own body?

Even in SL an avi can get a little breast exam education (courtesy of the AMCC Hospital -

http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Fashion%20Boulevard%20II/139/92/43)

Step 1 - Lift your left arm up, and place your hand at the back of your head.

Step 2 - Move the fingers on your right hand in a spiral motion around your left breast, starting from the outside and working towards the nipple.

Step 3 - Move the fingers on your right hand in an up and down motion moving from left to right across your breast.

Step 4 - Move the fingers on your right hand in the outline of an eight pointed star across your breast, returning to the nipple with each line.

I know, I know. Who can find the time, right?

Well, the truth is......you can. It's your health, and 15 minutes once a month won't completely ruin your over-packed schedule.

Handy Breast Self-Awareness Cards are available (by mail and download) from the Susan G. Komen Foundation (http://ww5.komen.org/Content.aspx?id=8934) as well as more information on Self-Exams (http://ww5.komen.org/BreastCancer/BreastSelfExam.html). They'll even send you monthly e-mails to REMIND you of your self exam.

Develop your breast awareness, and then set a time once a month for your monthly self-exam. I promise..you won't regret it.

Come back for our next post on.....DUN DUN DUN.....doctor's visits, pap smears and mammograms! Things that make you go..ugh...... :)

XOXO,

Bliss

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Merry Christmas Eve!

2011-12-24T11:24:00.000-05:00

XOXO
B

Hoarding Hurts Everyone..

2011-12-15T22:10:00.002-05:00

Did you know that 250,000 animals per year are victims of hoarders? (Source: Animal Legal Defense Fund)

According to the Humane Society, animals kept in hoarding conditions often suffer extreme neglect, including lack of food, proper veterinary care and sanitary conditions. Officers investigating hoarding situations often find floors, furniture and counters covered with animal feces and urine. In extreme cases, decaying animal carcasses are found among the living animals. Insect and rodent infestations are also common.

Filthy conditions under which animal hoarders live also attract disease vectors such as insects and rodents. This can also threaten neighboring households. Often a house that is home to a hoarding situation must be condemned by the health department due to unlivable conditions.

The animal cruelty laws of all states have provisions stipulating minimal care standards (e.g., food, shelter, veterinary care, and sanitary conditions) for animals. Legislation has been enacted in a few states specifically addressing animal hoarding.

In situations where the animal hoarder is unwilling to accept help and the animals' conditions do not warrant animal cruelty charges, non-animal agencies often step in to force change. For example, fire departments can cite hoarders for fire code violations, health departments can intervene where there are disease issues and housing code violations, and county zoning boards can step in to force change if there are local ordinances regarding the number of animals a person may keep. The charges may be necessary to help the hoarder understand the gravity of their situation.

For more information, please check out the Humane Society!

http://www.humanesociety.org/issues/abuse_neglect/facts/hoarding.html

Remember.

Hoarding hurts everyone.

XOXO,
B

Happy Holidays!

2011-12-08T01:10:00.002-05:00

From my family to yours..best wishes for a happy, healthy and safe holiday. :)

XOXO,

If You Really Love Your Pet...

2011-12-05T01:15:00.003-05:00

In every community, in every state, there are homeless animals. In the U.S. as a whole, there are an estimated 6-8 million homeless animals entering animal shelters every year. About half of these animals are adopted, and tragically, the other half are euthanized. These are healthy, sweet pets who would have made great companions.

Millions of pet deaths each year are a needless tragedy. By spaying and neutering your pet, you can be an important part of the solution. Contact your veterinarian today and be sure to let your family and friends know that they should do the same. (The Humane Society)

Did you know..it is impossible to determine how many stray dogs and cats live in the United States? The estimates for cats alone range up to 70 million! (ASPCA)

For more information on spaying or neutering your pet, please visit The Humane Society (http://www.humanesociety.org/issues/pet_overpopulation/tips/afford_spay_neuter.html) or the ASPCA (http://www.aspca.org/Home/Pet-care/spayneuter.aspx).

Don't believe me or the Human Society? Maybe you'll believe the lovely actress Katherine Heigl.

Come on..I said..they said..she said it. What are you waiting for?

XOXO,
B

Art Basel Miami Beach 2011 - The Good, The Bad, and the Underbelly..

2011-12-04T20:26:00.000-05:00

I've been lucky enough to spend the last four days of RL in South Beach, Florida enjoying an amazing weekend of some of the most amazing artwork, exhibitions and displays from artists and galleries all over the world.

Below you'll find some pictures I took, along with links to the various shows and exhibitions. :)

If you ever get a chance to attend..I highly recommend it. The experience is unique, and in many instances, captivating.

http://theunderbellyproject.com/
http://www.artbaselmiamibeach.com/
http://nadaartfair.org/about/
http://www.seven-miami.com/
http://www.rfc.museum/
http://thewynwoodwalls.com/
http://www.solfirearts.com/
http://www.inkartfair.com/
http://www.mrbrainwash.com/
http://www.artbaselmiamibeach.com/go/id/eof/
http://www.bassmuseum.org/

These are just some of the amazing things I came across in Miami - though there were tons more and something for everything.

I even found an amazing french macaroon truck on the steps of the Bass Museum. :)

Hope you enjoy the pictures.

XOXO,
B

Happy Thanksgiving

2011-11-24T21:51:00.000-05:00

We all know Thanksgiving is a very unique time of year for me.

Two years ago, my dad suffered a massive heartattack on Thanksgiving day at the kitchen table. We thought he was gone..lost to us.

But he laid in a coma for eight days, and on the day we agreed to let him go, he woke up on his own. And two years later, he's home and recovering from a very sucesseful prostate cancer surgery.

Can anyone ask for a better reason to be thankful on Thanksgiving Day?

So today, I wish all of my friends a very happy and healthy Thanksgiving. I'm thankful for every one of you in my life. Blessed, even.

Enjoy the day. :)

XOXO,

B

Concerned Bloggers Association

2011-11-22T12:51:00.000-05:00

Aside from being a huge fan of Marleen Vaughan's designs and blog, Coffee Smoke, I think this is an amazing idea:

http://concernedbloggers.wordpress.com/

:) Check it out when you can - it's pretty awesome.

XOXO,
B

The Evolution of the Chase

2011-11-20T22:38:00.000-05:00

So let me nutshell this for you lovely folks. Here's how things go in the story of Boy and Girl:

1. Boy meets Girl.
2. Boy decides he will do anything to get Girl.
3. Girl plays hard to get.
4. Boy can't get enough time with Girl.
5. Girl falls for Boy.
6. Boy loses interest and spends more time with other things.
7. Girl tries to get his attention, with no luck.
8. Boy believes that having won the girl..means he won't lose her.
9. Girl leaves. Boy has no idea why.
10. Repeat the cycle.

And NOW! Some music love for you.

One of my favorite voices of SL shared this cover of "Wicked Games" by HIM. Check it out. :)

XOXO,
B

Blissie Boucher's Guide to Women (For the Clueless Man)

2011-11-08T00:58:00.002-05:00

Dear Clueless Male,

So you're reading this...thinking to yourself.."This doesn't apply to me. My lady's happy. *insert profuse ball scratching*"

Well.......are you sure about that?

Just so there's no confusion..here are Blissie Boucher's rules to keeping your lady happy. And just for you extremely colorful folks..I'll put it to music.

Rule #1: Catcalls and Compliments

"Some day, when I'm awfully low,
When the world is cold,
I will feel a glow just thinking of you
And the way you look tonight.
You're lovely, with your smile so warm
And your cheeks so soft,
There is nothing for me but to love you,
And the way you look tonight."
~Frank Sinatra, "The Way You Look Tonight"

Make your lady feel pretty. No, not just pretty. Beautiful. Make her feel like she's the only one you see in a crowded room (regardless of how true or untrue this is..). Why? Because women love to know that the effort they put into picking the right dress to impress you..is appreciated. Know those catcalls that women on the street hate? Sometimes, it's a nice thing to do at your OWN girl (imagine that...). Compliment her hair..her eyes..her smile. You like it? Say so! Believe me..you will never suffer for giving her a compliment - you can ONLY prosper.

Rule #2: Make. The. Time.

"In the time it would take you to learn from your mistakes
In the time it would take to dial the phone
In the time it will take you to realize her greatness, she'll be gone, she's moved on
To someone who takes the time
Her love wasn't a priority to you
You had other things on your mind
And now that it's much to little and so far too late
The busy signals all that's left behind
You're all alone"
~Ne Yo, Time

Yup. We've all got things to do. But here's the thing my dad always taught me - and this is one of the biggest keys to a happy relationship - 'Time isn't something you have. It's something you make.' It's all very simple, really. If you don't make the time for her...you will lose her because someone else will. Not a complex rule, guys. The same time and courtesy YOU expect, you should give to her as well.

Rule #3: What Does She Like?

"Running out of room begging for more up against the wall that has been scuffed by my stilletos
Again
You pry apart my thighs and tell me to be still
And I willingly submit to you because I love the way you dominate me"
~Jose Nunez, Bilingual

This one...is VERY VERY important.  Do you know that thing she does that drives you crazy? That thing she does simply because you like it? Well..ask yourself......"What drives HER crazy?"

If you can't ANSWER that..you've really screwed up. But this can be fixed.  What does it require? DING DING DING! It requires time and attention. Take the time to talk..to explore..to taste test, so to speak. That's part of the fun..finding each other's sweet spot. But being a selfish lover will ALWAYS get you dumped. Seriously.

Rule #4: Doesn't Hurt to Give..

"And no, I ain't perfect - nobody walkin this earth's surface is
But girlfriend, work with the kid
I keep you workin' at Hermes, Birkin Bag
Manolo Blahnik, Timbs, aviator lens
600 drops, Mercedes Benz
The only time you wear Burberry to swim
And I don't have to worry, only worry is him
She do anything necessary for him
And I do anything necessary for her
so don't let the necessary occur, yep!"
~Jay Z & Beyonce, '03 Bonnie N Clyde

Does your girlfriend go on and on and on about a necklace she saw? A bag? A cupcake at the bakery? Here's a hint. Buy it.

Yeah!

Buy it for her. If she knows you like something......doesn't she buy it for you? So why aren't you taking the gifts? Hello? Presents are good. Doesn't need to be jewelry or fancy things.  Know she likes KitKats? Buy her the big pack. Surprise her with it. Just..don't make her tell you what she wants. Pay attention..and you'll know.

Rule #5: Speak

"Have no fear for giving in
Have no fear for giving over
You'd better know that in the end
Its better to say too much
Then never say what you need to say again"
~John Mayer, "Say"

We're not mind readers. We don't know why you do what you do..say what you say..so it helps to speak up. Tell us what's on your mind. It doesn't have to be constant chatter. Just the things that maybe we need or want to hear. If you let us in..way less fighting. Communication is key.

So..these are some of the golden rules to having a happy lady.

There are more, of course, but these are the big ones.

Remember..if you don't love her right..someone else will. And that's the truth.

Happy Monday!

XOXO,
Bliss

Happy Halloween from The Savoy

2011-10-31T13:47:00.000-04:00

Had an amazing Halloween Eve party at the Savoy Jazz Club last night. :) The amazing decorations were compliments of the ever-fabulous Cataplexia Numbers, who subsequently DJed a great set. Stop by tonight, or whenever! Great club, great folks and some say..great music!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Marco%20Island/207/65/22

Happy Haunting!!

XOXO,
B

Looking For Love in All the..Virtual Places..?

2011-10-30T19:18:00.000-04:00

So, I've recently gone on a campain to hold singles mixers at the Savoy Jazz Club. But in order for me to understand what would lure a single person into the Savoy, I needed to know what the single scene actually was like.  I was single in SL for maybe all of 3 months, and that was two years ago.

So, I searched up Singles. What I found, actually really surprised me. SL is a a hub for...dating services. I wandered a few to see how things were run and what the candidates looked like.  Something that struck me as odd..was that a lot of the avis there were very new to SL. Maybe two to three months old.

So that leaves me to ask...is SL not any fun without a partner?

So, I IMed one of the avis hanging around the dating service and asked him why he was there. Why didn't he hit places like Phat Cats or Franks for loving?

His answer was simple..and actually made a lot of sense. He said..

"Not everyone at those places is interested in anything more than dancing."

So..where do you go when you're looking for love?

I've honestly never had to look for love in SL. It kinda always..happened. Even when I didn't want it.

How far would you go in SL to find love?

XOXO,
B

Dinner..

2011-10-23T18:22:00.000-04:00

Quinoa and scallops. :) My secret? Four different kinds of freshly cracked black pepper.

Enjoy!

Going Home..

2011-10-23T16:58:00.000-04:00

I had a long conversation with a very old friend last night about relationships.

See, a long time ago, I made a statement that stuck with her.

No matter how far I wander, or where my SLife may take me, I always find my way back home.

Home being the one place that you always belonged - never felt like a stranger..never needed to explain yourself..just the place where you could be you.

I still stand behind that statement - that we all have a place that is home; whether it is romantic or a clique..we know where we are happiest.

For me, Mr. Moo was always home. Even when we ended our romantic relationhip, we were still friends. Still neighbors. Still there. When I was down, sad or bored..he was always there for me, and vice versa. He was my SL home.

So now..take stock of those in your life. Where do you feel like your home truly is?

XOXO,
B

Fashion Bloggers..

2011-10-18T23:52:00.000-04:00

Is it wrong that I feel all teary eyed because my two favorite fashion bloggers that were a couple..broke up..and now have different fashion blogs?

Breaks my heart. :(

I loved their joint blogging.

B

2 Years and Counting..

2011-10-16T00:36:00.002-04:00

How do I explain Cisqo?

Well......he's my favorite Colbie Caillat love songs made real. He's sweet, funny and so hot. He makes me feel so..happy that I can't find the words to describe it.

He's the guy that met me..and wanted to introduce me to his friends and landlord and make me a part of his world without question or hesitation.

He's the guy that when I hesitated and stepped back from relationships, he sat patiently and waited for me. We used to joke that I lived on the corner of Mistrust Lane and Suspicion Blvd. And he was sitting on my porch steps waiting for me to let him in.

But I did. And I'm not sorry.

He's been the most drama free romance I've had in Second Life. A two year drama free record? Hello? That's unheard of.

:) I dunno..what do you say? Two more years?

I dedicate this super sappy song to him.

XOXO
B

Some Wife..

2011-10-12T22:41:00.002-04:00

Dead on the floor..and she just keeps eating her popcorn.

That's some love there....

Same Old Story..

2011-10-03T00:06:00.000-04:00

If you read this blog, I'd hope that you've learned a few things about me. The most important thing is that I firmly believe that you have to live for today. Your entire life can change in a single second - for better OR worse.

So here's what I want you to consider:

1. Forgive your enemies. What does carrying around the hatred do for you anyway?
2. Remember good times. Trips down memory lane always warm the heart.
3. Tell the people in your life what they mean to you. Dole out those 'I love you' statements. How would you feel if you never had the chance to say it again?
4. Be true to you. Don't be who other people want you to be. Be who you love being. Don't be afraid of what people will think, or how they may perceive you. Just let all of that GO and be who you are.

Happy Sunday!

XOXO,
B

Happy Birthday To Me....

2011-09-18T23:56:00.001-04:00

“And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.”

~Abraham Lincoln

I've been blessed to celebrate my birthday with some of the most amazing friends in Second Life for the last four years. :) I reflect a lot about the family I've built in SL, about those who have left and those who remain. My family is large, and sometimes they may all seem very different - but I know deep down they're all the same; good people.

In honor of my friends who aren't around in SL to celebrate my birthday with me anymore, I offer up the following..

"Though we drifted apart in distance I still think of you as being right here. And although we have many new friends, it is our friendship that means the most to me."

XOXO,
Bliss

Mr. Moo..?

2011-09-13T21:06:00.000-04:00

Rumor has it Mr. Moo has left Second Life. Well, not quite rumor. More like a notecard from him.

Well, loyal reader, you know my story with Mr. Moo. Our love, our friendship, our journey.

While I don't think my contact with Mr. Moo has completely ended (come on, he can't get rid of me that easily..), I am extremely saddened to see him quit SL.

Anyone that's ever spoken to me knows that I use my relationship with Borday as an example of everything - because the things we withstood were crazy. But our friendship was strong enough..and we never gave up on each other.

I wish him all the best, and send all the love and light I can muster to him. May his travels bring him peace, joy and prosperity - wherever they may take him (hopefully, though..they bring him back to us..LOL).

XOXO,
B

10 Years Later..

2011-09-10T21:34:00.002-04:00

“Time is passing. Yet, for the United States of America, there will be no forgetting September the 11th. We will remember every rescuer who died in honor. We will remember every family that lives in grief. We will remember the fire and ash, the last phone calls, the funerals of the children. “
- President George W. Bush, November 11, 2001

Ten years later..and it seems like everything happened yesterday. I still have this dull ache in my chest when I go downtown and remember the way things were. I still feel my stomach sink when listen to someone talk about where they were on September 11, 2001. I think it's one of those things that, while the rest of the country was able to move on in a small way, New York could never forget. And this weekend, with the terror alert level raised, I've been harshly reminded that 9/11 didn't just change our lives ten years ago...it changed our world forever.

I used to think the most painful thing I'd ever witnessed in the streets of New York were walking by the Missing posters post-9/11...knowing that none of those people were ever coming home. That their families...standing on the street corners giving out posters and checking every list available...would never find peace.

But ten years later, I think the most painful thing is that this has become normalcy. This way of life...with armed guards in subway stations...checkpoints on Madison Avenue...

This is today's New York City. This is my city.

Something about that breaks my heart.

I wandered off to the Second Life WTC Memorial (http://slurl.com/secondlife/New%20York%20NYC/222/17/21). The greeting was interesting.

State Of Liberty: Blissie Boucher, Welcome to New York, home of the Staue of Liberty and the World Trade Center Memorial. We are getting ready for our 9/11 Memorial event this Sunday. Please remove all weapons. You will see 2996 flags all over the streets, there is one for every soul lost that day. The country lets you know where they were from.

Immensely touching. And astonishing to see all of the flags lining the sim streets of NYC. Almost 3,000 lives stolen...cut short...futures and destinies erased in a heartbeat. The memorial with the names was MASSIVE...much like the real one. And the each memorial slate held the names of those that were lost in the WTC ten years ago. The creator of this sim...did an amazing job.

The more I write this, the sadder I get.

The inscription on the Washington Park arch, which is the hub for the 9/11 SL memorial tomorrow speaks volumes:

Let us raise a standard to which the wise and the honest can repair. The event is in the hand of God. — George Washington

So many things I wish were different, but are not. So many things I wish I could erase before I bring children of my own into this world, but cannot.

At the end of the day, all I can truly do today is offer my prayers. I can pray for the fallen from 9/11. I can pray for peace for them...and those they've left behind. I can pray for all of the soldiers that have been lost since September 11, 2011 to today, and I can pray for their families.

And my last prayer is for everyone.

September 11, 2011. We will never forget.

Ever.

Windy Sunday Thoughts..

2011-08-28T18:49:00.002-04:00

Well..what a week.

First, not one but TWO earthquakes tap New York. THEN we get slammed by Hurricane Irene (albeit a measly category one hurricane).

See, we're New Yorkers. We're equipped for lots of things. Blizzards, terrorist attacks, gangs, taxi rides..you get the idea. What we are NOT equipped for is the earth beneath our feet moving for NO reason and the skies opening up and rocking our skyscrapers for NO reason.

Come on!

This is New York..we don't have these problems. At least..we're not supposed to.

What is this, "The Day After Tomorrow"? Come ON!

But thankfully, my loved ones are safe and sound - and beyond that, I can't ask for much more. To all my friends up and down the east coast, I hope you're able to say the same.

Be safe, friends. Live every day to the fullest - you never know what tomorrow brings.

Sitting here on this windy Sunday evening..taking stock of all the news reports of flooding and damage, I know how lucky I am.

XOXO,

Happy Birthday, Dad!

2011-08-23T12:27:00.000-04:00

Two years ago, my dad died at the kitchen table. Like..literally keeled over and died. And after a long period of uncertainty, he's home and well.

AND NOW.

Today he's celebrating his 71st birthday. I'm blessed in so many ways..but most of all, I'm truly blessed to be able to celebrate one more birthday with him.

Life is so short, and everything can change in a heartbeat. Be thankful for the ones you love, and the ones who love you.

Have a greay day..I know I am.

XOXO
B

Midnight Chats..

2011-08-20T04:36:00.000-04:00

With my wife..in any world..are seriously the best.

Reality vs. Virtual Reality

2011-08-15T23:34:00.000-04:00

Thanks to Bev, I've got the following to share with you:

"A few years into making the film, I started to recognize that this dichotomy was false, that the virtual world is really part of the real world and they aren't separate things. What ultimately matters to us is what's in our mind, and our relationships that are in our mind. And if you can make meaningful relationships in Second Life, then it's a very fuzzy line, really, between what's real and what's not. They co-exist."

http://techland.time.com/2010/01/28/sundance-second-life-better-than-the-first/

A little deep thought for you on this late Monday night. :)

XOXO,
Bliss

Guess..

2011-08-02T23:21:00.000-04:00

..what season is about to start?

Yup. :) Jets training started - which means football season is coming, baby! Let's go gang green. We can do this.

Addiction..

2011-07-27T00:23:00.000-04:00

I know, I'm so very late. I have a horrible habit of starting blogs, saving them and re-visiting them later to finish.
With the recent passing of Amy Winehouse, the media spotlight has settled brightly on the topic of addiction. Sadly, it isn't her amazing sound or music that is remembered when her name is mentioned..just her troubles.

Recently, Russell Brand posted a blog entry dedicated to Amy - but not in the way you might expect. Many artists have taken to social media to talk about how wonderful her talent was, how tragic her passing is, or how much Amy would be missed. But Russell Brand chose to look at Amy Winehouse differently; through the eyes of a former addict.

If you've never experienced addiction - either as an addict, or a loved one of an addict - you don't really know what it's like. Fortunately (or unfortunately), I have lived life as the loved one of an alcoholic.

I know exactly what Brand means when he says that they look through you..as if you're not there, or as though they have something better to do. I think the hardest part is when you realize that you're actually an enabler. You're the one doing the things to help this person continue their lifestyle - and with your help, they may never realize that they need help. Talk about a guilt trip around the world!

It's hard, I think. To not help someone you love that's ASKING you for help. Whether it's financial..or a crash on your couch for a night or a week. You feel like you're letting them down if you refuse, and you know that if they weren't so sick..they'd do the same for you in a heartbeat. Because this person you're seeing..well that's not them. They're good at heart. Loving and kind..and you know they would do anything in the world for you - if it weren't for the alcohol or the drugs that had changed them. And if you remember the person they were before the alcohol and drugs got to them..? Oh boy. Then you're REALLY a sucker.

I confess that in my RL, I live with guilt of loving someone very much, but being unable to really help them because they don't want to be helped, and I am not strong enough to dole out tough love. I'm guilty of giving them $50 so that they can, hopefully, buy food or medication and not a bottle of vodka. I'm guilty of taking them in when they're too drunk to go home. Why? Because I know what that sober person is like. I know that with sobriety comes kindness, love and understanding. But it's the damn alcohol. It eats at a person like a cancer. And in the end, you can barely recognize them. And the things they do and say..that's a whole other story.

I'd love to say that with the passing of Amy Winehouse, maybe those currently afflicted with addiction will wake up and change their lives for the better - but that's not realistic. Some people need to hit rock bottom before they can wake up..and others don't ever wake up. There is something very honest, genuine and raw in Russell Brand's blog entry. His is the clarity that I think the loved ones of many addicts eagerly wait for in their own people.

I don't know what the answer is. I believe that everyone has the opportunity to get out of a life of addiction - but they have to want it. Some people are too high or drunk to see the opportunity, though. And their vision is too blurry for them to see the pain they cause in their loved ones as well. Those voices have long since been lost in the fog that addiction creates. Is the answer to be there? Is it to show tough love? Is it to act like there is no problem? I have no idea anymore.

My loved one has long since been lost to alcohol, and unfortunately, I know that final call will come one day too. I dread it, but I know that I must come to terms with it.

I highly suggest you read the blog entry..it's absolutely more eloquent than my blog.

http://www.russellbrand.tv/2011/07/for-amy/

XOXO,
B

No Words..

2011-07-25T23:07:00.000-04:00

It is with deep sadness that I type this blog today. Borday Moo's father passed away on Saturday, July 23rd. If you'd like, Borday has left his Facebook for everyone to keep up to date.

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001391834117#!/profile.php?id=100001391834117&sk=wall's

My thoughts and prayers are with Borday and his family.

It's my understanding that his father was taken by cancer - the most foul and devastating of illnesses I've ever personally witnessed.

If you'd like to make a donation in honor of Borday's dad (no, I will not be giving out his real name), you can go to the American Cancer Society https://www.cancer.org/involved/donate/index.

I tried to find an appropriate psalm or quote....but I can't. All I have is my love and light to send. It's on it's way, Moo. Be well.

B

Funniest SL Store Ad EVER..

2011-07-19T19:43:00.000-04:00

Found at PreFabulous..

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Deborah/189/50/34

:) XOXO

B

So Vain!

2011-07-14T20:02:00.000-04:00

I made this collage AGES ago! But it had some super old pics in it...so I updated it!

Here's a project! Make a collage of YOUR favorite pics! Let's see it!

XOXO,
B

Music Lane..

2011-07-13T00:13:00.003-04:00

Attended the Colbie Caillat record release party tonight.

:) Reminded me of the days when Moo and CJ would play "Bubbly" for me at the clubs.

Performing "Midnight Bottle"

Performing "Lucky" with Jason Young (I think Jason....)

So funny how songs..and music in general have really shaped my SL experience. From the original days of AC/DC to the New Boyz..I've been exposed to so many amazing artists and types of music. For every song..there is an SL memory memory to go along with it - a dance, a joke, a club, a friend...

I hope you all have your SL music memories too, and think of them often. :) Do you ever wonder..if without our music..would we all have ever met?

Have an amazing night. I know I did.

XOXO,

Zombie Crazy Fun!!!!

2011-07-04T00:22:00.003-04:00

I completely LOVE the new Miho Zombie sim. There's even a wild west zombie sim!

So much fun - kudos to Hartigan Beck and Ayn Tomsen for doing an AMAZING job.

I spent an hour just shooting zombies - dressed as a cowgirl.

Come on. It's awesome fun. Just try it.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Miho/170/98/41

Have a great night!

XOXO,
B

Happy Fourth of July!

2011-07-02T19:14:00.000-04:00

You have to love a nation that celebrates its independence every July 4, not with a parade of guns, tanks, and soldiers who file by the White House in a show of strength and muscle, but with family picnics where kids throw Frisbees, the potato salad gets iffy, and the flies die from happiness. You may think you have overeaten, but it is patriotism. ~Erma Bombeck

From my family to yours..I wish you all a safe, happy and healthy holiday. :) And to all of the soliders who have ever, and will ever, serve our country..THANK YOU.

XOXO,
B

Sunny Rainy Days..

2011-06-27T00:11:00.002-04:00

New York, Stand Up!

2011-06-25T14:01:00.000-04:00

"Way to go, New York. One people. One planet. One love." — Alyssa Milano

I've always been a proud New Yorker. But last night, with the passing of the same-sex marriage law, I think I'm just a downright boastful New Yorker. :)

I guess like Alicia says..concrete jungle where dreams are made of, there's nothing you can't do..

Equality for all should never have even been up for debate.

Congrats to everyone who worked hard to get this passed, and an even BIGGER congrats to everyone who will now be able to get married in the State of New York - regardless of sexual orientation.

XOXO,

Bliss

"C" Yourself With More Birthdays

2011-06-21T21:03:00.001-04:00

Head to the "C Yourself With More Birthdays" Facebook page, click "like," and then upload a photo of yourself making a letter "C" with your hand, arms, props—really whatever you can think of.

If Facebook isn't your cup of tea, you can also upload a photo via Instagram (just be sure to add the #CYourself hashtag).

For each uploaded photo, Showtime will donate $5 to the American Cancer Society. And the most creative photo will earn a $5,000 cash prize.

XOXO,
B

Easy Things You Can Do to Help Marriage Equality Pass in NY

2011-06-20T19:32:00.000-04:00

Being treated equally should never be up for debate. And everyone should have that right - regardless of their gender, race, religion and sexual orientation.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/mjs538/easy-ways-you-can-help-marriage-equality-pass-in-n

Come on, New York. Don't let me down.

XOXO,
Bliss

Friendship and the Virtual World

2011-06-12T21:00:00.004-04:00

Why, hello! :)

I'm Blissie Boucher..a four-year veteran of Second Life.

Close your mouth - yes, people DO make it to four years without having some kind of nervous breakdown (personally, I think the key is to take a break every now and then - but that's a whole other post).

See, my favorite part of Second Life is (and always has been) my friends. I am, after all, married to my best friend. :) But there are some things that I think new people in Second Life need to know (ya know..be told versus learn).

You see, just because it's a cartoon world, doesn't mean everyone within SL is playing a part. Some people are simply just..themselves - only in cartoon form. Having fun..telling jokes..enjoying music and exploring new and exciting places. Lots of people in SL even do the unthinkable..and wear their heart on their sleeve.

And just because it's virtual, doesn't mean that emotions are any less real to some folks.

So here's the thing: when you make a friend in Second Life, treat them the same way as you would like to be treated. Be kind, be generous, be caring and being genuine. And if you cannot be any or all of the above to someone, then leave people alone.

The rules of friendship are the same - in any world.

Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

Not a hard concept. Good idea for the virtual world..and the real world.

I've seen it all kids - really..I have.

Just remember, when you're in crisis and lost..when your heart is broken..or when your whole world is collapsing around you for one reason or another..your friends are the ones that will pick you up, dust you off, and help you carry on. So don't mistreat them..because karma is a bitch. A big..cruel bitch with a nasty sense of humor.

I've been so blessed in my Second Life to have the most amazing friends ever. Friends that have put me together more times than I can count..suffered through my ramblings..my fashion shows and they've never abandoned me - even when I more than deserved it.

If you have real friends..ones that have and always had your back..THANK them. Because being a friend doesn't come with pay (though it probably should), just your love and appreciation.

And you..well..you'll know those friends. They're the ones whose true colors are always the same - through good days and bad days. And when the chips are down..or a situation doesn't benefit them..you'll know who really was never a friend to start with.

A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future,

and accepts you just the way you are.

Just my words of advice for today. :) Have a happy Sunday.

XOXO,

Some random pictures....

2011-05-22T10:55:00.001-04:00

Almost looks like I've been a busy girl......

LOL

But I haven't. :) Just catching up with my old friends. And finally getting a current picture with CJ (last one..he was blonde - no lie).

Hope you're having a fabulous Sunday. :)

XOXO,
B

My guy....

2011-05-01T01:12:00.002-04:00

For the Player....

2011-04-30T23:41:00.003-04:00

It's a little..teenage..but the sentiment is correct.

Everyone knows that guy..the one that wants to have his cake and eat it too.

And if any of those asshats are reading this blog..

Listen to the song. It's for you.

I'm a Super GleeK!

2011-04-27T19:23:00.003-04:00

So, I love the show Glee.

And, I'm so lucky to live in NYC..because they're FILMING here!

So, I snuck out of work around lunch time and took some photos.

:) I did get my picture with Harry Shum, Jr. (Mike Chang)..but that's not making it here. They're around for the rest of the week, so if I get any more shorts, I'll post them.

Happy Hump Day!

XOXO
B

A Mystery is Lurking..

2011-04-26T09:04:00.003-04:00

Dear Friends,

A mystery is lurking. Be careful. Something is lurking........

Are you ready?

Get your Scooby gang outfit ready. We've got a mystery to solve.

To Be Continued.......

XOXO,
B

Everything's Coming Up Roses.....

2011-04-24T17:05:00.001-04:00

A little bit of RL for you today.

Spent a little while in the garden at my parents house.

I've been nursing a Summer Snow rose bush indoors for the last six weeks because it was too cold outside to plant it. I'm really excited about them..because they were blooming indoors - so hopefully they'll do even better OUTdoors.

Happy Easter Sunday everyone! Enjoy the day with your loved ones. :)

And to non-Easter celebrators, have a wonderful Sunday. Stop and smell the roses today.

XOXO,
B

Working Hard..

2011-04-22T23:45:00.001-04:00

Gosh, this blogging is super hard to do.

Happy Friday everyone! :) Happy holidays - whatever holiday you may be celebrating.

XOXO,
B

My Story..

2011-04-16T14:59:00.000-04:00

My SL story began in a 50L dress store. It's where I lived as a noob.

My story and I then moved to a skybox apartment next to an old friend. In lieu of furniture, I had photo frames all over the walls..an art gallery of my noob days.

I left my solo story behind and moved into a beautiful snowy cabin with Mr. Moo. :) From a snowy cabin, we moved to a beach paradise. And then to a fall forest cabin.

My story and I continued on to an NYC apartment skybox. Then another one.

Then a home filled with skylights and warmth.

Then to a dome with an amazing waterfall built in.

Then to a snowy cabin in a dome.

Back to the beach.

And now, once again, in a small apartment in the sky.

My home has reflected change in friendships. Changes in taste, changes in loves, changes in everything in my slife.

What does your home story say about you..?

Some Blogs That Are Super Fab..

2011-04-14T12:18:00.000-04:00

While there are a ton of really great blogs out there..I won't lie. I don't read a lot of them.

I keep up with a few, and even though they're on the side bar......here they are for your viewing pleasure!

Have you ever met Stella Stapleton in SL? Fabulously amazing photographer, and a genuinely sweet person. Her blog has some amazing fashion and BEAUTIFUL pictures.
http://stellastapleton.com/

Coffeesmoke is THE blog. It's like..the yoda of all blogs to me. I love their taste..their style..heck. I just love them! If you make time to read any fashion blog..skip mine. THIS is the one.
http://coffeesmoke.wordpress.com/

Another great SL lady..is Yordie Sands. I don't get to SEE Yordie often, but it's awesome when we get to catch up. Her blog has taken a fictional turn..and it's kinda cool to read a story in a blog setting. I think you'll enjoy it. :)
http://yordiesands.blogspot.com/

Last, but not least, is the fashion/picture blog of SL model/blogger Florian Antiesse. The pics are stunning - well worth the visit to the blog.
http://girlsinhawaii000.tumblr.com/

Of course, I always think you should read the blogs of my friends..as I love them dearly and know you will too.

Like I said..click the side bar links and enjoy. :)

XOXO,
Bliss

Double Parked..

2011-04-14T00:08:00.000-04:00

While my driving skills have been mocked, I did an excellent job of driving everyone from the Bistro to the Savoy last weekend. :) Everyone made it safely, and no pedestrians were injured. One came dangerously close......but I slammed the brakes just in time.

Then I got to hang out with an old friend - can you find us in the grass? LOL Best way to spend a lazy day. Just hanging around chatting it up and exploring.

I'm late in blogging these pics. But you know. Better late than never.

Happy Hump Day!

XOXO,
Bliss

Sometimes..A Picture Says It All..

2011-04-13T00:04:00.000-04:00

Wild Times..

2011-04-11T23:58:00.000-04:00

Kinda wished I'd snapped a picture. But I didn't.

Hung out with the ever fabulous Bev and Caresse. Voice chat. Hysterical laughter. Memory lane.

Crazy fun.

Haven't laughed until I had tears in my eyes in forever.

Best night in ages. :)

XOXO,
B

Did I..

2011-04-10T01:21:00.000-04:00

..totally go to a rave tonight? Then a jazz club?

:) Why yes, I did.

It was fun, too.

But Cisqo time is always fun.

Hope you had a great Saturday!

XOXO,
Bliss

Fashion..

2011-04-09T09:21:00.000-04:00

So it's 9:17 AM (oddly enough, my date of birth)..

And I'm puttering around trying to get some RL stuff done and I get a sweet e-mail notification that one of my co-authors at the Black Sheep Fashion Diaries has posted a blog.

:) If you haven't checked it out yet, please do:

http://blacksheepfashiondiaries.blogspot.com/

In the coming months, my biggest hope for SL is for me to host a large fashion showcase sponsored by Black Sheep Fashion - much like the ones I used to do at the Bee Hive ages ago.....

I'm more than happy to take any suggestions - so grab me in world if you'd like.

Alrighty. Happy Saturday, everyone!

XOXO,
Bliss

Memories....

2011-04-03T22:04:00.000-04:00

Going through some old pictures...

And thought I'd share some. :)

Kinda cool to see the changes in my avi's look..

Some people wonder why I take so many pictures..

And it's not that I've forgotten these moments..or the people in these pictures..

But sometimes, it's nice to have something to remind me of everything and everyone that made me who I am.

Here's the Story..

2011-03-28T00:18:00.000-04:00

Here's the story..of a lovely red dress.

This isn't a fashion blog. At all. Believe me.

See, it's a story of how a dress can be more than just a dress to a girl.

You see, I was dancing in this club one night. It was right after my heart had been shattered in SL, and I was (as the Jersey Shore guys put it) in creep mode. You see, I was DONE. No more relationships..or romances..or anything of the sort.

So anyway, the theme at this seedy club was something lame like..Good Girls vs. Bad Girls. Well, I owned a sweet bra and boyshorts set that said Bad Girl right across the ass. What? We all own something tacky - come on.

So anyway.

I wore this outfit to the club. Had my girls Joonie and Nina with me. One of my favorite DJs was spinning. It was a pretty decent night.

And then this guy IMed me. This noobish guy who was hitting on me. But he wasn't quite noobish. His profile indicated that it wasn't his first time in SL. Great. An alt. An alt who  had been TPed into the club by a bunch of LOUD, shelf-butt having, bling-wearing.....females.  And if you just stopped to gasp, well here's a clue. Shelf butts are weird. And just..abnormal. Nobody LOOKS like that. There's a big butt, and then there's a shelf butt that you just rest a bowl on. And his name. Cisqo. Like..the thong song guy? Really? I laughed. A lot. But it was fun, so I went along with it.

Anyway.

So this guy IMs me, and he tries flirting HARD. But like I said..I was done. So I was as insanely difficult as any girl could get. He friended me, and for whatever reason, I accepted.  He left the club, but we continued to IM. I teased him for being cocky. Told him he'd never have a chance with a girl like me. He laughed. He said I'd be addicted to him before this was all over. I said he'd be addicted to me. Funny conversation to have - but it's usual in club flirting.

Fade to black. Fast forward a few nights.

Same DJ, same club..and add in a creepy avi who'd been stalking me at various clubs (follow the DJ, find the girl) appared. And when Cisqo asked me if I'd like to come hang out at his house, I chose the lesser of two evils and accepted the saving TP. It was weird. I expected him to be buck ass naked..prim parts attached - the whole nine. But he wasn't. He was dressed (well) and sitting on his couch in a very (oddly) furnished home. Later, I would come to find out he bought it that way..which was good because everything matched TOO well.

But.

He was polite, he was funny, sweet and we talked about everything and anything.  For the first time in a long time, I wasn't multi-tasking. I was just..hanging out with someone. Someone that saved me from a horrible stalker who was light years beyond annoying. Someone that didn't want anything from me..just my company.

At this point in time, I was starting to work with the Best of SL Magazine, I was fashion blogging, I was running Connected like a workaholic. I'd become an SL workaholic.

And one Sunday afternoon he IMs me and asks me if I'd like to go on a date with him.

I dodged. I said I was busy..I said I had so much to do..I tried my best - but he was relentless.

So finally, I told the ultimate lie. You all know me, right? I don't lie often. But I LIED flat out to this poor guy. You see I, Blissie Boucher, told Cisqo Cascarino..that I did not have anything to wear to a date.

I..the fashion blogger. I..the inventory queen. I..the shopaholic..

Did not have anything to wear.

I typed it and then almost died laughing at the absurdity of it all.

I was pose ball shopping with Aeryn and Kim..and I blurted my lie out in chat and they almost fell off of their chairs.

But like a gentleman, Cisqo said it was okay. He then proceeded to BUY me a dress and transfer it to me.

Now..I'd never had a formal dress bought for me in SL before. So I had to put it on and see what his taste was. If it was some kinda freebie looking piece of garbage.....someone was going to get bitchslapped.

But it wasn't.

It actually..was a beautiful dress. Not slutty..not tacky..not cheap looking. Just a classic red dress that really did look beautiful on me.

So I had to.   I had to wear it..I had to tell him the truth. I had to go on the date with him. Because the effort alone had won me over.

He laughed - teased me a little for my lie. But he appreciated my honesty.

The date itself was a comedy of errors. The first club he chose to take me to slow dance was under renovations and it was basically a shell of a building.

Then he took me to the Savoy, where Kim and Aeryn were decorating for Halloween outside of the club.

Smartest idea to take a date to the club she spends almost all of her time..surrounded by all of her friends? Nah. But he didn't know that. He made a great effort to do things he thought I'd love. To chat up my friends..to show me a good time. He tried - and that alone was interesting to me.

And when the date was over, and he'd logged..I was left thinking..

Very few people in SL have ever dared to buy me clothes. And this guy did. This ballsy guy..who bought me a dress that I actually liked. So even if it didn't work out..at least I still had a new dress to wear, right?

This blog is too long now. But to make a long story a little shorter, I'll tell you this - I'm glad he didn't give up. That red dress is one of my favorites now. :) So's the guy that gave it to me.

XOXO,
Bliss

Go Purple Today!

2011-03-26T12:06:00.000-04:00

Today is Global Epilepsy Awareness Day! In honor of this day, the color purple is being used for a variety of things. One event for Epilepsy Awareness Day is "The Great Purple Cupcake Project". Bakeries around the country (here in NYC, I've seen it at Magnolia Bakery - http://www.magnoliabakery.com/home.php) have put out special cupcakes decorated in purple frosting..with purple glitter..purple flowers..and proceeds are donated to the Anita Kaufmann Foundation (http://www.akfus.org/).

If your local bakery hasn't participated, you can still show your support by wearing purple and, if you can, donating to an epilepsy charity of your choice. One I've used is The Epilepsy Foundation (http://www.epilepsyfoundation.org/). And if you have the time, why not whip up some cupcakes decorated with purple frosting..or heck, even some purple cupcakes - and share them with your friends and family?

:) I've got mine!

Dress: MichaMi: Kat in Pink Purple (http://slurl.com/secondlife/Copley%20Square/179/128/24)
Boots: Stiletto Moody: Black Croc
Necklace: Earthstones: Power Crystal - Sugilite
Cupcake from: 4Kittens of the Apocalypse - Giant cupcake! (purple frosting) (http://slurl.com/secondlife/Penning/74/109/78)

It isn't what you have in your pocket that makes you thankful....

but what you have in your heart.

Have a great day!

XOXO,

Bliss

(For more detailed information regarding clothing, etc., please visit The Black Sheep Diaries - http://blacksheepfashiondiaries.blogspot.com/)

My SL..

2011-03-23T21:47:00.000-04:00

I should hide the shopping bags before Cisqo catches me.. :-X

XOXO,
B

Pray for Japan

2011-03-20T04:37:00.000-04:00

What's going on in Japan right now is mind blowing. An earthquake..then a tsunami..and now a potential nuclear threat? Crazy. It's almost more like a movie than reality.

While it's hard to find in SL - there is one reputable source for donating money to aid the quake/tsunami victims in Japan - the Red Cross. My heart goes out to everyone there, and to anyone who isn't there, but has loved ones affected.

https://american.redcross.org/site/Donation2?idb=0&5052.donation=form1&df_id=5052

There are a lot of different sims in SL trying to raise money and awareness - so check them out if you can. I spent a little time at La Triste Luna (http://slurl.com/secondlife/La%20Triste%20Luna/69/24/22).

There, I found the most beautiful rock garden. Four rocks with different words etched into them. Hope, Love, Dream, and Live.

Pray for Japan - the people really need it right now.

XOXO,
B

This Editing Your Name Thing..

2011-03-19T14:24:00.000-04:00

Is a pain in the ass. People move on my friends list..from A to Z because they've changed their display name. I don't get it..why did you pick the name you did..if you were just going to change it?

Kudos to the people who have left their fricken names alone.

There's my rant for the month.

Hope you enjoyed it. :)

XOXO,
B

Goodbye to Old Sunsets..

2011-02-19T18:18:00.000-05:00

Sometimes in SL, you say goodbye to old sunsets to welcome new ones. To welcome new air and new sunrises.

Change is never good. But it's always for the best.

After amost three years, I left my land to find new land in SL. :) Maybe it's the company..maybe it's the change in view. But it kinda feels good. Fresh and exciting.

Enjoy the days, kids.

XOXO,
B

Advice

2011-02-15T20:43:00.000-05:00

Gosh..

2011-01-30T17:28:00.000-05:00

Got lost again, didn't I?

:) Was busy baking. Check out this week's awesome snack. Peanut butter and jelly cookie bars. Bake like a cake..and slice 'em up into little squares. SO delish!!!!

XOXO,
Bliss

Gang Green..

2011-01-16T20:29:00.000-05:00

Go JETS! That's whassup, baby!

:) I won't jinx it by saying Superbowl Champs. But damn, wouldn't that sound good? ALMOST as good as World Series Champions, the New York Mets!

A girl can dream. :)

XOXO,
Bliss

At Connected Consulting..

2010-12-21T21:53:00.000-05:00

We take care of all types. :)

Love it!

XOXO,
Bliss

Happy Holidays!

2010-12-18T18:20:00.000-05:00

To All of My Second Life Family and Friends:

Best wishes for a happy and healthy holiday season! :)

From Cisqo too. LOL

:)

XOXO,
Bliss

Take the Pledge..

2010-11-28T13:25:00.000-05:00

I know times are tough for everyone, but..I think taking the pledge to see that no child goes hungry is important. Even if you can't afford to donate, you can afford to spread the word to the blogging world and raise awareness.

XOXO,
B

Ushering in the Snow...

2010-11-27T15:43:00.000-05:00

Let's see....

Since my last post, not too much has happened. Had a fantastic Thanksgiving - where I totally whipped up a Martha Stewart style dinner. :) And this year, there was no dying or sickness. Everyone lived and ate and then passed OUT from too much turkey.

And as is always my custom, I started decorating for Christmas. Since everything was so quiet on this long weekend, I logged in to SL to decorate my home there too. So I cleaned up the ground and decided it should be as snowy on the ground as it was in my skybox.

Of course, every adventure needs company. So I rang up Mr. Moo, who happily joined me on my snow hunting crusade. He even help me change my radio to my favorite Christmas radio station..because DAMN..I love Christmas music (FYI, my favorite song is "Baby It's Cold Outside").

I had so much fun, I made him decorate his house too. LOL! And in my usual fashion, I snuck in and put cookies and milk out on his table. Every house needs food!!! His Christmas tree is cool...it gives out Christmas balloons too! Mine's just..a plain old Christmas tree.

Hopefully, I'll get to see more of you guys - I really do miss my crew. :)

I hope you all had an amazing, safe, healthy and happy Thanksgiving and Black Friday. Christmas is right around the corner now - have you decorated? Will you?

TTYL for now.

Love,

Bliss

Have You Met....

2010-11-14T20:55:00.000-05:00

Cisqo?

I know, I know. I don't blog about him as much as I did Mr. Moo.

Doesn't mean he's not very important to me.

:) For the record, we celebrated our one year anniversary together last month. One year since we met in a seedy club..one year since he tried to take me on a date and I tried to ditch him..and one year since he had dinner in my apartment with me and we started talking, and I realized that this guy wasn't like other SL guys (Moo excluded).

Over that year our RLs got CRAZY. But we stuck it out, and I know now that......sometimes you get what you need when you NEED it, not when you want it.

We laugh like nut jobs together..and he's so laid back..he makes ME laid back.

:) Whaddaya think? Another year on the horizon?

XOXO,
B

Old Lives..New Lives.........Blurry...

2010-11-14T00:46:00.000-05:00

It's funny what SL can do to you when you first start. Or even your first..one..two..or three years into it.

What's even funnier is how things can go from all encompassing to.....meaningless. How people can fade from your rearview mirror and leave you wondering if they ever belonged in the picture to start with?

Though, it's strange how some people never fade from your life, isn't it? Even when things are crazy..and hectic..and life's just sucking you into a big black hole - some people always surface in the sea of insanity and throw you a line to bring you back. Those are the people you should always keep close. Always remember to check in on THEM too. Friendship is a two way street.

I'll always say it.....I've come so far in SL, and learned more about myself than I ever thought possible. Fallen into so many black holes, and crawled my way out (never on my own - always with the help of the best friends in the world), stood tall and laid on the floor with footprints on me. But..I always get back up. SL isn't just a cartoon world. It can beat you down if you let it. It's the people you surround yourself with that can truly make the difference.

So to my besties..who made it from my old life..to my new life..from my free skin to my pricey skin..from my house, to my island to my skybox.....

I love you. And in this particular holiday season, I am more than thankful for you. I am grateful.

Your world can change in the blink of an eye. Make every second count - don't waste your time and energy on the unimportant things in this world. Zoom out on that picture you're looking at and take it all in. Best advice? Just Live.

XOXO
Bliss

Home..

2010-10-23T11:40:00.000-04:00

When it snows..you have two choices; shovel or make snow angels. :)

Welcome to the new Boucher home..happily nestled in the snowy mountains of the new Blissie Cave. An amazing birthday present from an amazing friend.

:) Who's ready for the holiday season? Meeeee!!!!!

XOXO,
B

GAME DAY!

2010-10-04T20:41:00.000-04:00

I forgot to post these earlier. :) I snuck on a little late last night and what do you know..my Cisqo was on too!

So we posed for some game day pics. We may support different teams, but we play nice. :)

I'm totally a Jets babe, and he's a Panthers fan. What about you?

B

Okay, Let's Remember...

2010-10-03T19:50:00.000-04:00

So, maybe I shouldn't say this..but I feel like I should.

Second Life is not reality.

It's not..how do I say this? You're not wandering forests. Or swimming in oceans. It's not reality.

I had the brutal displeasure of running into someone I met a very long time ago in SL.

She was so wrapped up in Second Life..so..consumed by SL, SL love, SL drama, SL was RL to her..and all I could do was fake an AFK to get away from it.

You see, I used to hate people that left SL for RL..

But now..I don't log in..and I genuinely don't miss it.

Don't get me wrong, I miss my friends. I miss the hysterical moments with my friends in Second Life. But not Second Life itself.

I stopped building, designing..decorating.......shopping.

GASP!

I know.

I realized..I don't need something to re-capture my attention. I've seen it all and done it all in SL. I use it mostly as a chat client these days. I IM with my friends and I log off. Or I log on and clear notices..and log off.

But sometimes, even I need the following reminder:

Second Life is not REAL Life. Nor is it a healthy substitute. And sometimes, you need to take time away to remember that.

Otherwise..you become the freak that someone plays afk on..to avoid talking to them. ;-)

XOXO,
B

Where In the World is Blissie Boucher?

2010-09-27T00:06:00.000-04:00

Kinda feel like I'm stuck in a constant state of AFK. I log in, and get lost doing something else..and by the time I remember I'm logged in and come back..everyone else is gone.

When did it happen that I could not log into SL for days at a time and not miss it at all?

I miss my friends, sure. But the need to be a part of SL keeps fading..

Well..drop me an offline IM, I'm always happy to chat on Google Talk. Unless I don't like you. Then please don't.

XOXO,
B

The Girl Can't Help It..

2010-09-16T00:01:00.000-04:00

Came on the radio..stuck in my head. :) Fabulous - I love it. One of my fave songs ever.

XOXO,
B

Nothing on the TV....

2010-09-07T00:02:00.000-04:00

So I don't log into SL a whole lot these days. I pop in and out usually. And when I'm not hiding out at a club or gig, I'm standing still in my rezz location IMing.

For the first time tonight, I went down to the bottom of my rainforest dome (yes, that's where I live) and sat on my couch to watch my SL tv.

In that tv..there are a ton of pictures from my last 3 (soon to be 4!) years in Second Life.

Some pictures make me smile, some make me laugh..and of course, there are those that make me a little sad.

You see, in my time in SL, a lot of people have come and gone.

But none will ever bother me so much as those that leave my life, but don't leave SL. Some I've made the hard decision to unfriend. Others have chosen to unfriend me. And then there's the rare few that we still see each other on our friends list, but no words are ever spoken.

I guess, just as with RL, people drift apart. Priorities change, lives change, yada yada. Maybe the following is true:

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

~Author Unknown

I guess, I'll just have to believe that.

I've put the TV back into my inventory for now - because maybe it's time I sorted through those endless pictures and weeded out the ones that sting. The truth is, more of them make me smile than anything else. Adventures, silly nights and of course, the amazing shots of my outfits. LOL!

But on the very SUPER bright side, my SL brother, Deylan, has chosen to return to SL. In his absence, we did keep in touch - thankfully.

I guess when some people exit, others make their return.

:) Wouldn't that be ideal?

Hope you all had a safe and healthy Labor Day Weekend!

XOXO,
B

Happy Birthday Dear Dad

2010-08-23T16:18:00.000-04:00

Didn't think this day would come - but it did. :)

Thank you for giving me another day with my dad.

B

Nina Brandenburg Sings....

2010-08-22T23:32:00.000-04:00

Okay, please pardon the profanity...

However.

Nina totally fucking KILLED it on Saturday night when she performed Lady Gaga's ballad, "Speechless".

I mean..she was so BEYOND fantastic..I feel like I should have recorded it to add to my iPod!

Don't know the song?

:) Educate yourselves, kids.

Best live SL performer EVER. Thanks, Nina!

Too Funny

2010-08-14T17:09:00.001-04:00

"Livejournal is a site where people who don't have any friends can spend hours writing fucking inane journal entries and then pretend that they have friends who want to read them. It's a great system because it keeps the loonies off the goddamn streets. With Livejournal around, you can read about some guy who is complaining that Cap'n Crunch slices open the roof of his mouth when he eats it. If Livejournal didn't exist, you would be walking down the street and meet the same guy screaming at the top of his lungs and trying to stab you in the face with a hammer."

-- from "Chris" at somethingawful.com

Where the Wild Things Are..

2010-08-11T19:41:00.000-04:00

Lying in my bed I hear the clock tick and think of you
Caught up in circles
Confusion is nothing new
Flashback, warm nights
Almost left behind
Suitcase of memories
Time after

Sometimes you picture me
I'm walking too far ahead
You're calling to me, I can't hear
What you've said
Then you say, "go slow"
I fall behind
The second hand unwinds

Chorus:
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I'll be waiting
Time after time
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I will be waiting (I'll be waiting)
Time after time

After my picture fades and darkness has
Turned to gray
Watching through windows
you're wondering if I'm OK
Secrets stolen from deep inside
The drum beats out of time

If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I'll be waiting
Time after time

You say "go slow"
I fall behind
The second hand unwinds

Chorus:
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I'll be waiting
Time after time
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I will be waiting (I'll be waiting)
Time after time (Time after time)

Time after time
Time after time
Time after time
Time after time
Time after time
Time after time
Time after
Time after

Woot!

2010-08-04T21:52:00.001-04:00

S'all I got to say, yo.

:)

XOXO,
B

Starting Over

2010-07-05T04:27:00.000-04:00

First of all, let me just say a genuine thank you to US troops around the world for all that they do and all that they stand for. I hope you had a wonderful 4th of July (I say it in the past tense because it's 1 AM for me - so the 4th is over).

I was lucky enough to get to spend some Sunday down time with my bestie, the lovely Beverly Zauberflote. It was nice, just being able to hang out and chit chat (not that she's not subjected to my constant chatter on a regular basis). But usually I'm wrapped up in something else or focused on something else..and so I was really happy we got to just goof off together.

And hanging out with Bev got me to thinking.

How do we make it through?

How do we, as normal human beings, make it through everything life hands (or throws) us?

I think, on a very basic level, it becomes fight or flight.

Some people choose to kill their avis and start over.

And there are other people. People like me, who choose to fight..who choose to accept things the way they are and push through.

It's confusing, I know.

Let me give you a hypothetical example:

Meet Second Life avi, Jane Doe. Jane Doe meets and falls in love with SL avi, John Dee. What Jane doesn't know is that John has a girlfriend on the side. Until one day Jane busts John in a lie and finds out he's living an illicit double life with a whole SL family and prim babies. Jane's friends find out, and it's now the talk of SL. Profile drama, IM gossip. You name it.

Jane's faced with two choices.

She can remain as Jane Doe..and move on. She can wait for the gossip to die down and she can, as they say, roll with the SL punches and hope that normalcy resumes (well, as normal as SL life can be).

OR

Jane can kill her avi off, sell her land and create a new avi who never has to deal with any of Jane's old life. She can meet and marry a new SL guy without ever having to address the old one.

Here's the thing, though....

How does one forget who they are? How do you detach yourself, the user, from Jane, the avi? How is that possible at ALL? How do you "forget" Jane's friends, her enemies, her loves, her hates, her inventory, her EXPERIENCES? Try as you might, I don't think you really ever can.

Jane is as much a part of you as you are a part of her.

Jane's fooling herself if she thinks that she can walk away and become Lorna Doe and never think about Jane again.

Do you never speak to your friends again? Do you become your old friend's friends....as a new avi?

See, to me..there IS no starting over.

Just pushing on.

It's like real life in a way.

Yes, you have your shitty times, and yes, you have the people that gnaw at your insides. But the thing is..you grow..and you move on.

You stay on as Jane, and realize that the things you thought you'd never survive..you will survive. Sure it'll suck for a while - whatever it is - but when you get through it and you look back, you say to yourself..

Damn that was some learning experience.

:) Hopefully, that's what you'll be able to say.

So.....

To anyone who's thinking about starting over, let me just explain that I'm not saying DON'T start over. I'm just saying..what's the point? You'll survive the whatever..and be okay.

But that's just my humble opinion, kids.

:) Have a fabulous night.

XOXO,
Bliss

Saturday Dare

2010-07-03T18:03:00.000-04:00

Inspired by a bucket of frozen margaritas and some awesome beach time.

Put on your favorite song..

Turn the volume all the way up...

And sing the hell out of it.

:) Doesn't matter is cats and dogs sing with you - rock it!

Happy Saturday!

XOXO,
Bliss

Happy Father's Day

2010-06-20T20:45:00.002-04:00

God, I want to thank you. Thank you for giving me the best dad I could have ever asked for. Though, I know in my heart, if I had asked for a dad, even the most ideal of descriptions wouldn't have compared to the dad I was given. And thank you for giving me more time with him when you could have taken him away in November. I am nothing short of blessed in this life. ♥

Happy Father's Day to my dad, and to all of the amazing dads out there.

XOXO,
B

Coming Home...

2010-06-19T20:45:00.000-04:00

Introducing Cisqo..

2010-06-13T17:03:00.000-04:00

So this is a little overdue, I think.

Meet Cisqo, my other half.

Cute, isn't he?

It was a decision that took a long time for me to make..

I swore I'd never settle down ever again.

But I'm kinda glad I did.

When my dad got sick, Cisqo stayed up a lot of nights IMing with me to help me stay awake for the night shifts at the hospital. Consequently, we both went through a lot in RL after we met, and I don't believe it was just coincidence that we met when we did. The thing I love about SL is that it can bring people into your life you otherwise would never have known.

It's still relatively new to me - not being selfish and bratty - which is what I was I got used to doing after Moo and I ended.

I have no idea what's in store for us - but I think whatever it is..I'm down for the ride. :)

XOXO,
B

Summer Days..

2010-06-04T23:56:00.000-04:00

:) Oh, the lazy busy summer days in New York City.

Rooftop parties, evening dinners..outdoor margaritas..sexy summer dresses..sunglasses..the sweet chill of air conditioning..ponytails..the ICE CREAM TRUCK! :)

I love the summer in NYC.

It occupies a lot of my time, and sucks me away from SL some. But it doesn't mean I don't love my friends - I do! :) So if we don't get to see each other - I apologize. And if we do, I'm thankful.

I recently got the chance to just kick back with my old friends - even if it was sitting in my Connected office. :) But it was totally worth it. And Moo and I were able to hang out and explore a cattle ranch as well.

And Bev..well..my bestie gets the short end of the stick with me. So I owe her the biggest apology. By the time she gets to me, I'm falling asleep on my computer.

And Cisqo..well. Cisqo keeps the same wacky SL schedule I do, so our time is BEYOND limited.

So here's to you enjoying your summer as well - hopefully with a margarita in hand, and maybe laying on the beach. :)

XOXO,
B

Happy Mother's Day!

2010-05-09T11:48:00.001-04:00

:) To all of my fave SL ladies - superheroines in both worlds as far as I'm concerned. Have a great day!!

XOXO,
Bliss

Exploring! :) Finally!

2010-05-04T21:06:00.001-04:00

Thanks to Bev.. :) for my first exploration venture in ages. From sipping tea, to meditating, to tai chi, to glass sharks..and of course, reaching for the hand of a higher power..we had a blast! :) Love ya, B!

XOXO,
B

So Let Me Tell You a Story...

2010-04-29T20:12:00.000-04:00

Dearest readers..

A reminder for you.

When you make a promise to yourself..you must keep it.

When you say you won't do something again..or accept something again..

Remember why.

Remember what MADE you make that promise to yourself.

And don't go down the same road twice.

XOXO,
Bliss

Wandering..

2010-04-14T19:31:00.000-04:00

“I know not how I may seem to others, but to myself I am but a small child wandering upon the vast shores of knowledge, every now and then finding a small bright pebble to content myself with.”

So life has been busy..

I've become a dreaded SL absentee - which isn't too bad. But I miss my friends.

I know the fashion blog has quieted a lot. As has this blog.

Things will pick up again, I'm sure. But for now..I kind of enjoy the silence. :)

Hope all is well for you and yours.

XOXO,
B

Cake, Cake and More Cake

2010-04-04T23:36:00.002-04:00

A real blog post will come soon - as soon as I find the time.

But here's a pic of the cake I ordered for my mom's surprise birthday party on Saturday.

Happy Easter, everyone! :)

XOXO,
B

Goodbye ROBs..

2010-03-14T23:43:00.000-04:00

I thought long and hard about how I would blog this..

And truthfully, there is no blog I could write that would do any of my time at ROBs justice.

It's the place where I first walked into..that made me feel at home.

It's where I met my friends.

It's where I met my Moo.

It's where Blissie Boucher was truly BORN.

So I spent my last night at ROBs exactly as I spent most of my earlier nights - dancing with Mr. Moo and enjoying an atmosphere where folks show up for conversation and music and not themes..or lindens..or over-gesturizing.

Goodbye ROBs. Thank you for everything you've given me.

XOXO,
B

Half of My Heart - John Mayer and Taylor Swift

2010-03-02T22:01:00.000-05:00

Half of My Heart - John Mayer and Taylor Swift

I was born in the arms of imaginary friends
Free to rome made a home out of everywhere I've been
Then you come crashing in, like the realest thing
Trying my best to understand, all that your love can bring

Oh half of my heart has a grip on the situation
Half of my heart takes time
Half of my heart has a right mind to tell you that
I can't keep loving you(can't keep loving you)
Oh with half of my heart

I was made to believe I'd never love somebody else
Made a plan stay the man who could only love himself
Lonely was the song I sang, til the day you came
Showing my another way, and all that my love can bring

Oh half of my hearts got a grip on the situation
Half of my heart takes time
Half of my heart has a right mind to tell you that
I can't keep loving you(can't keep loving you)
Oh with half of my heart, with half of my heart

Your faith is strong, but I can only fall short for so long
Down the road, later on
You will hate that I never gave more to you
Then half of my heart

But I can't stop loving you(I can't stop loving you)
I can't stop loving you(I can't stop loving you)
I can't stop loving you, with half of my heart

Oh half of my heart
Half of my heart
Half of my heart has a real good imagination
Half of my hearts got you

Half of my hearts got a right mind to tell you that
Half of my heart won't do

Half of my heart in a shotgun wedding
To a bride with a paper ring

But half of my heart is the part of a man
Whose never truely loved anything

Half of my heart
Oh half of my heart
Half of my heart
Oh half of my heart