Friday, February 26, 2010

Morph Me Beautiful, Baby!

So every now and then, I go on a mission to have something.

Sometimes it's shoes, sometimes it's clothes..a hair..a pose..a whatever.

This time, I went on a photo morphing bender.

What is photo morphing, you ask? It's the blending of RL images with your SL make an amazing and, sometimes, very beautiful photo. The trick is..finding the perfect SL photographer that can blend the images perfectly.

Now this is actually where the trouble comes in.

Not very many SL photography studios do it. So you search and come up with about a dozen.

Now, having done a few, and figuring out that you CAN drive someone nuts by changing your mind multiple times or asking for changes to the picture..the style..the feel..the best thing for you to do is:

1. Go into the studio with a notion of what you want already. Colors, ideas, feels, photo messages.

2. If you know of a photo you've seen that you like the pose, the style, etc. SEND IT TO TH PHOTOGRAPHER. I maybe wouldn't have driven a few people nuts if I had done that to start with.

3. Don't be afraid to ask for changes - especially considering a morphed photo can run you anywhere from 1,000L to 3,000L.

While I've shot several, the first one I got back were from the VERY kind Marion Falworth of Lavish Photography. I was exact in what I reflection in a mirror morphed. I think the results are stunning.

I'm beyond difficult to work with - ask Ayn Tomsen and Hartigan Beck of AHA! Designs. When they custom build homes for me, I come with an exact imagine in mind. This is what I want - what's in my head. I provide pictures, I provide feedback while they work. But that's in the building of a house.

It's a lot harder for me to stick my nose in with a partially finished morph. I just have to wait until it's done and then give my honest feedback.

But I have to say, though the image in my mind was slightly different, the feeling in the picture and the overall look was perfect and on-spot. It's sexy and surreal..very beautiful.

Now the close-up, I offered less direction on. I simply said, I want to look more exotic than just one ethnicity. The results are AMAZING - almost as if she'd read my mind.

So I feel very satisfied tonight. Excited, even. :)

Months ago when I discussed morphed photos with the lovely Stella Stapleton, we were unsure of copyright issues, etc. and agreed to hold off on taking them until we knew more. I'm kind of glad I waited, because now I have more of a feel for what I want out of the picture.

:) Of course, there's more to come.

I debated posting this on Black Sheep or here, so I'm just going to go ahead and post it in both.

So, check out Lavish Photography at



Sunday, February 21, 2010

Random Pics..

Quiet weekend shopping and hanging out. Didn't get to take too many pics..but just a handful of some taken for the fashion blog (which I finally updated!).

:) Love you guys!



You'd think my last blog would be enough to send Cisqo running for the hills - disgusted by my lack of SL commitment.

It did not. For Valentine's Day, we weren't around he gave me my gift on Thursday evening.

My gift? A JCNY Wedding Ring SET.

So I froze, in awkward silence for a moment. Thanked him. Teased him. I think we had a fight on Friday about the ring - sometimes I can't tell.

And tonight, everyone's gone to bed, so I decided to try the ring on. Just for the heck of it.

Can't hurt, right?

Damn you JCNY. This is a REALLY nice ring. Actually, it comes with the engagement ring, the wedding bang and the set of two together.

It even comes with a LOOK AT MY RING animation!

Does wearing the ring say more than I intend to? Is it REALLY just a ring? Does the proposal make the ring, or does the ring make the proposal?

I'm on the fence about it. Literally. The last time I wore a ring, I was with Borday. We weren't married, but I wore the ring. I'm over thinking this whole thing, I know.



Monday, February 15, 2010

So Let's Talk Marriage..

No, not RL. Hopes DOWN people. :P

Let's talk SL relationships - partnering, commitment and cartoon love.

What constitutes an SL relationship? What makes people in SL decide to dive into the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship..or worse..the husband/wife relationship? Is it the basic need for companionship? Is it the cartoon sex? Is it, for those who have sworn of romance, the thrill of the ultimate catch? What drives people to form a bond in SL that they may already have in SL?

These things eat at me, you know?

Me – of all people – the girl who committed to a guy in SL for more than two years. Oddly enough, the thing Mr. Moo and I agreed about the most was that we would never SL partner. It wasn’t because we expected to break up; it was more that to us..partnering was the kiss of death to a relationship. We’d seen so many friends and acquaintances go through massive SL weddings..parties..ceremonies..only to break up two weeks later. It was a well known pattern, and we weren’t about to walk that path.

Time passed and Moo and I quietly separated. It wasn’t messy or hateful. Our friends didn’t have to choose sides, there was no profile hatred, no nasty unfriendings. He was, above all else, my best friend in SL. And our relationship really hadn’t changed. We still fussed and drove each other nuts..and then made up as quickly as we had fought. But we were no longer obligated to do certain things. As a significant other, you have “duties”. You’re responsible for showing up at certain places and at certain times. Their schedule becomes yours, and your schedule becomes theirs. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not a burden or hardship – but it can feel more RL than we want sometimes. And when you’re somewhere that’s meant to be relaxing, it can make you..edgy.

But Moo and I weren’t/aren’t your average anything. Our relationship wasn’t one decided over a two week span. Little known Boucher-Moo fact: while we were married on a dance floor at One Word by Kimala, we didn’t live together or DATE for months. We hung out and got to know each other. We were friends who happily fell into the role of husband and wife and had an amazing two year relationship (which, for the record, I credit for our still being great friends in SL – despite what life throws our way).

But I digress.

What is it that makes someone WANT a commitment in Second Life?

I recently started dating someone new - Cisqo. Nice guy, very funny, attractive – we click. And yet, I’m hesitant.


I don’t know. He’s patient and kind, and a player willing to settle down with only me. He makes an effort to be friends with my find out what’s important to not just make me a part of his world..but to become a part of mine too.

And I hold back. Still. For whatever reason, I keep one foot securely out of the door in the event that I need to make a break for it at any given moment. Make a break from what? I have no idea. The fairytale-ish story that girls dream about..that teen movies are MADE of..and it seems like I’m on a single track to flee from it all.

Recently a few folks have invited me to their weddings in SL. Always beautiful affairs – fun to get dressed up and fun to watch. And I’ve been asked the question I’ve been asked since I started SL. When will you get married? And I laugh it off, but the truth is.. it’s not for me. SL wedding bells, SL formal commitment – I’m just not meant for that life. It’s not that I have issues being faithful. It’s just that I’ve been the SL wife (minus the partnering). I’ve been the girlfriend. The lover. Been there, done that. All that glitters isn’t necessarily gold.

Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy having someone to hang around with. Having someone to chat with, to spend my time with, to explore with. And Cisqo is more than patient and content to live SL life with me the way I am. And for that, I’m thankful. I don’t want or need anything more. Commitment isn’t a battle with us. He doesn’t need to be paraded around, and he doesn’t need to show me off. Us just having time for each other is what’s important, and that’s what makes us a comfortable couple.

But being single in SL, well there’s a lot to be said for it. No rules, no answering to anyone, no expectations, no guilt. The only thing is that once a guy realizes you like single life, they want to own you. Always trying to make you their girl – for one reason or another. I think for most guys, it’s about having the girl..the unattainable girl. Like the nerd getting the cheerleader..or whatever.

I’ll never understand it..and I’ve long since stopped trying to.

My advice is simple. Find someone in SL to keep company with that brightens your day and makes you laugh and enjoys the same things as you. Just relax and have fun. Don't run around looking for true love..or that one person to make you complete. The only person that can complete you IS you.

And if you truly feel the need to partner with someone? Partner with the person in SL that never lets you down, that always brightens your day, and the person that will tell you when you're being half cracked HONESTLY, and still love you. I did. :)

And with that jumbled mess of a post, I leave with you a quote from Sex & the City..

Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.


Sunday, February 14, 2010

Happy Valentine's Day!

Not my bear, but you get the picture.

:) Happy Valentine's Day, my loves!


Friday, February 5, 2010

Avatars United? :)