Monday, February 27, 2012

The Average Girl's Guide..

I'm a HUGE fan of this blog.  It's down to earth and so fabulous.  Read WILL fall in love!

Happy Monday!


Saturday, February 25, 2012

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Five Years and Counting...

Wow.  Today is my five year rezz day in Second Life.

Things have changed so much since I logged in that day.  Mostly, I think I've changed.

So many friends have come and gone - and so many still remain.

I can't even begin to list the people that have touched my life and been a party of my Second Life journey.  I walked into a club five years ago called Roll Over Beethoven, and I met some of the most amazing people ever.  I was also exposed to an entirely new world of music - as evidenced by the insanity that is my iPod. 

From that day on, I've been into countless clubs, seen so many different DJs, met so many people, had so many jobs, worn SO MANY OUTFITS.  LOL.

But I can honestly say that the last two years of my second life have been so....relaxed and laid back.  I feel like I've finally slipped into this amazing place where life's back to being all about the music and the company.  No drama, no issues, no pressure.  Kinda like, I grew up and got past so much of what was making me a train wreck years ago. 

I've been so blessed in my lives (first and second) to have made a friend like Beverly.  A truer friend I could never have asked for.  The kindness, love and absolutely non-judgmental friendship she offers is so rare and live saving.

And to still have the pleasure of sharing my world with people like Borday, Crighton, Ehric (all three of these guys from my first days in SL!), Cisqo, Bill, Nina, Parker, Quiet, Ayn, Hart, Prez, Joonie, Yordie, Abel, Leanna, Deylan, BigD, Cal, Heal, and Mikki (please forgive me if I missed anyone) whether through RL, in-world or this blog is amazing.  I'm honored to still keep in touch with and continue my friendships with so many outstanding people.

Over the last five years, so many unique and colorful people have come through my life.  Some pass through and color it for a moment, while others have left their imprint for years to come.  Wacky, Kaarlton, Cal, Kemi, Peng, Kim - just a few of the people I'm sad to let go of, but happy to have had in my life, and wish nothing but the best for. 

I've always tried to share my 'life lessons' here - so many others can avoid the pitfalls I fell into.  But the reality is that you need to experience some of these heartbreaks to become stronger and smarter.  Sometimes, some experiences are ones you need to have for yourself to truly understand.

I guess what I'm trying to say to everyone (and I do mean everyone - my old friends and new friends) is thank you.  Thank you for everything.  Thank you for the good, the bad, the love, the hate, the fights, the make-ups, the jokes, the music and above all else, thank you for being a part of my life.

With that, I leave you all with a parting that I loved hearing when I first joined SL five years ago. 

We'll do it all
On our own

We don't need

Or anyone

If I lay here

If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

I don't quite know

How to say
How I feel

Those three words

Are said too much
They're not enough

If I lay here

If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told

Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

Let's waste time

Chasing cars
Around our heads

I need your grace

To remind me
To find my own

If I lay here

If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we’re told

Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

All that I am

All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes, they're all I can see

I don't know where

Confused about how as well
Just know that these things will never change for us at all

If I lay here

If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world? 

-Chasing Cars, Snow Patrol


Saturday, February 11, 2012

Goodbye Whitney...

How sad. 

An incredible talent lost and a life cut short.

This album was the first album my sister and I ever bought with our pooled allowance money. 

I wish her the peace in death that eluded her in life.


Sunday, February 5, 2012

Happy Super Bowl Sunday!!!

Regardless of who you're cheering on today, I hope you have a safe and fantastic Super Bowl Sunday!

As for me..

They're not my beloved Jets, but come's still New York.

Let's go GIANTS!


Undead and.....A Series (of crap) By Mary Janice Davidson

Okay, so seriously..I loved this series.


As in the past tense.

I have stuck with this series and this author for a few years now......and I gotta say.

This book is so seriously fucked up at this point, they should just kill everyone in the book and start over.
The lunacy.  The redundancy.  The complete lack of respect for the reader.

What started out as a great series..turned to crap.  Serious..hardcore CRAP.

Every book repeats the same thing over and over and over.  I guess to catch a reader up that's starting in the middle of the series (what asshole does that?).  But for me, it happened so MUCH in the book, it was sickening.

And then!  And THEN!  The 9th part of the series..has her completely.......for lack of a better term....FUCKING THE WHOLE STORY UP!


Killing Sinclair! 


Dear Mary Janice Davidson.  I would kick you in the knee RIGHT now if I could.


Their romance was seriously ALL that made the book worth reading. 

And now........


Fuck you.  I'm not reading parts 10 and 11.

Because that's a shitty way to treat your readers, and your characters would kick you too, I'm sure.

Pardon my late night rants.  But seriously.  What..the fuck!?


Friday, February 3, 2012

Domestic Violence and Abuse: On the Outside Looking In..

Sometimes, love doesn't work out the way we imagined it out.  Sometimes....people say and do things that can leave us very confused and hurt.  Sometimes emotionally, and sometimes....physically.  And in many cases, it's us looking in at another relationship, watching a friend or loved one suffer in silence that's really the scenario.

Between 600,000 and 6 million women are victims of domestic violence each year, and between 100,000 and 6 million men, depending on the type of survey used to obtain the data. (SOURCE:

If there are signs of abuse, then paying careful attention is the most important thing you can do to help someone.  Because we all know..they don't come in the form of HELP written across a mirror.  Don't be silent.  DO open the lines of communication.  Don't mind your business.  DO ask your friend/loved one if they are okay.  Don't pass judgement or make sweeping generalizations.  DO make them feel safe and comfortable enough to talk and let you in.

Sometimes, a helping hand can make all the difference.   

Safe Horizon provides the following handy guide.. 

Some signs of domestic violence and abuse are more obvious than others; these are few of the
most common...

Does your partner ever…
1.  Accuse you of cheating and being disloyal?
2.  Make you feel worthless?
3.  Hurt you by hitting, choking or kicking you?
4.  Intimidate and threaten to hurt you or someone you love?
5.  Threaten to hurt themselves if they don’t get what they want?
6.  Try to control what you do and who you see?   
7.  Isolate you?
8.  Pressure or force you into unwanted sex?
9.  Control your access to money?
10.  Stalk you, including calling you constantly or following you?

IF YOU SUSPECT that someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or relationship abuse…
- Get Information
- Get Resourches
- Get Them Help!
 There are many places you can go to for help, including Safe Horizon (, which is the nation’s leading victim assistance organization and serves over 250,000 people each year who have been impacted by violence. Whether they are responding to child abuse, domestic violence, or other violent crimes, they help victims and their families heal and rebuild their lives. 

If you are a New York City resident in need of crisis assistance, call one of our 24-hour toll-free hotlines. If you are outside of New York, please refer to the Additional Resources page.
  • Domestic Violence Hotline: 800.621.HOPE (4673)
  • Crime Victims Hotline: 866.689.HELP (4357)
  • Rape, Sexual Assault & Incest Hotline: 212.227.3000 OR 866.689.HELP (4357)
  • TDD phone number for all hotlines: 866.604.5350
You can also email for help at If it is a non-emergency situation and you would prefer to email us, please allow 72 hours for a response. For immediate assistance, please call us at 800.621.4673 instead of using email

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Thursday, February 2, 2012

Your Right to Choose..Who You Donate To......

I try (mostly) to keep my political views to myself.  Mostly because I think at the end of the day all it does it cause trouble.

But I've just got to say...I'm extremely disappointed in the Susan G. Komen Foundation for cutting funding to Planned Parenthood.  I'm even more disappointed in the fact that it's 2012 and the concept of a woman deciding what she does or doesn't do to her body is still up for debate.


If Ms. Handel really did cut funding to the POOR for potentially lifesaving testing, namely mammograms, then she (especially as a woman) should be ashamed of herself.  And if possible, she should revolt herself as much as she revolts me.   

 It's one thing to draw a pro-life/pro-choice line in spirituality.  But it's another thing to deprive innocent people of resources that may not otherwise be available to them.  When you're "mission" is to help save lives and help defeat cancer.....and then you cut the funding for the poor - then what's your true mission, Susan G. Komen Foundation?  Is it to only help the people that share your political views?  Or only to help the people that are able to fund your activities?

Well.  Thanks, but no thanks.  I'll donate my money elsewhere.  Like..the American Cancer Society or the Avon Foundation for Women.

In other news?  Kudos to Mayor Bloomberg.  Some days..he reminds me of why I voted for him.  NYC Mayor Bloomberg Steps Up.

Even WITH health insurance, mammograms are expensive (which is just insane).  Imagine if you didn't HAVE insurance?  Imagine if the one resource you did have for a free mammogram was taken away because the same establishment also conducted SAFE abortions.  Just so you know, Unsafe Abortions are on the Rise GLOBALLY.

I'm not saying you have to support Planned Parenthood.  I am, however, saying that you should stop for a moment and think about the opportunities people with money have......and the opportunities people withOUT money DON'T have.  And then consider the role YOU want to play in that tricky little scale of life.  I'm not looking to limit options and turn this into a world where someone has to choose between paying for a mammogram or feeding their kids.  Because I know what their choice will be...and I know (firsthand) what the potentially devastating risk could lead to.

Well.  Sorry if I've upset any of my pro-life friends.  But really..if you're my friend, you understand my take on abortion.  I'm not pro-abortion, kids.  We all know I'm eagerly waiting to be a mother one day.  But I am pro-CHOICE.  Regardless of what *I* am capable of doing, the choice should be made available to all women - regardless of age, race, religion, political affiliation and FINANCIAL STATUS. 

And as a parting thought...though Komen says they pulled funding because PP was under investigation for using funds for abortions and their corporate policy was to not support any entity under investigation...they continued (and continue) to support Penn State even through the sex abuse investigation....Read More Here..

 Just some food for thought.

And now that I've sufficiently worked myself up......I think I'm going to sign off.