Happy Anniversary to Us!

One year later.

An inventory lunatic..

A silk voiced DJ..

And they're still together.

:) A very big thank you to everyone who came out to our party and to all of the warm wishes that were sent our way.

How we made a year?

What's our secret?

Heck if I know.

I think it's the shooting each other thing.

I'll never really know.

I can only hope that we're doing this again for another year to come.

And to my friends that have given up on finding that one person in SL that kind of makes it all worth it?

Don't.

:) Whether it's a person to just wander, explore and learn with..or someone to..*ahem* with..

There's always someone out there.


XOXO,
B

Winds of Change..

Last night was a very..unusual night.

Moo and I threw a party at the Bedrock/Flintstone sim, which was so much insane fun!

At the same time we found out that the Bee Hive was being dismantled..and the land sold. There will be a new club, but the Hive is gone for good.

I have mixed emotions about this.

I love Busy and I love the Hive. It's my home when I am homeless. It's the club you can go to and always feel welcome - never out of place. But she needed a change - the Hive needed a change. Maybe a change in setting is what the club needs to drum up some business.

Then I got to thinking.

Maybe I needed a change too.

By nature I am a holder oner. I hold on to things..because if you let them go, they're lost to you forever and there's no getting them back.

And I want to throw more parties..in many more different sims like Bedrock. I want to work on more Fashion Showcases like at the Bee Hive.

And people don't join the Spank Pack because of the name and the implication, I guess.

So maybe it's time I ended the Spank Pack group and started a new group for my various endeavors and the different things/people and places I support.

Not to end the group of friends, just the physical group list. The Spank Pack consists of my nearest and dearest anyway. The ones I don't need a group to speak to.

So maybe with this new wave of change coming..I should make some changes as well.

As always, I'd love your input.

:)


XOXO,
B

No I in Team! (but there is a me..)

Some days I think everyone hits their breaking point at the same time.

Yesterday I sat in my office and listened to two co-workers have an all out screaming match.

Today I listened to the guy four doors down chew out his assistant with expletives.

Eleven years in this industry and I've never endured either.

Now..I've had the pleasure of working with a gentlemen (and I use the word accurately) who has 1. Never raised his voice to me 2. Never belittled me infront of my other co-workers. 3. Never backed me into a corner and hung me out to dry.

The closed door screaming? It can still be heard. Why even close the door if you're going to scream?

My boss always opted for the quiet words of "we can fix it'. I once said "you're going to kill me..I really fucked this up.." (And I really did fuck something up royally). His response, without ever looking up from his papers was.."there's nothing we can't fix".

So, it's only natural that I practice the same with my own assistants and team members. Everyone screws up. That is a fact of life. And the most important part of being a teacher is knowing that one thing. Knowing that anyone that accepts responsibility for their mistakes is taking the first step to correcting it. Understanding is key.

And when that's missing..people start hitting their breaking point. Blame starts flying. People start nit picking.

And it's never good.

I've always felt that..if I could teach someone..and raise them (so to speak) to do what I do..in their own way and be effective and successful..then I've been a good leader..and a good boss.

And if I'm lucky, I'll never become the nightmare boss or the boardroom bitch.

I'll get to have someone blog about me like this. :)

Another rambling post brought to you by..

The letter B!

Whose Body is a Wonderland?

So I got to thinking about bodies last night as I sat on the ab press shaking and burning and sweating.

We put a lot of emphasis on body image, don't we? Heavy emphasis lays on the size..and shape..and feel of your body. Both in RL and SL.

Notice how fatter avis aren't appreciated as much as the petite curvy avis are? Not told how hot they are? Or how outfits aren't really made for heavier avis?

So after dragging myself home and skidding into SL just in time for the showcase, I had the pleasure of meeting maria Zauberflote..who I took an instant liking too because she shares the same last name as my Bev.

Anyway, we were wearing the same House of Nyla lingerie set in different colors..but heck if the outfits didn't look very different. Luckily, Nyla has the foresight to include the little panty ruffle in three sizes.

And Maria and I got to talking. And I complimented her on her shape because, let's face it, real women have curves. Real hips, real stomaches, real butts!

And then I thought how funny it was that I throw Blissie on the SL treadmill every now and then.

Why? Would my friends shun me if I were a fat avi? Would Moo never have eloped with me? Would I not be a fashionista?

Do we carry the same body image fears in SL that we struggle with in RL?

Do we judge people the same way too based on the look of their avis? Maybe in SL it's all we have. Our look..to speak for us when we're lost in a sea of clubbers..or concert goers.

Are the bigger avis actually the ones with the better body images? Okay to accept themselves in both worlds?

It's late..I'm rambling..and my arms are sore..so are my abs..and my thighs..

And I'd really like to chuck it all and eat a pint of pineapple coconut ice cream from haagan daz right now.

Mmmmmmmm.

But then my clothes would be tight and..I'd huff and puff up the stairs..and well..

That's not cool.

I forgot where this was going.

Oh.

Well.

I guess..

It's ok to not be a size 2 in SL. To reflect your RL self through your avi.

It's actually kinda cool.

:)

Jealousy and the SL Relationship

Okay, so we all know I’m jealous.

Not just a LITTLE jealous – a lot.

But here’s the difference with me and everyone else; I’m open about it. I’m honest about my “MINE!” complex.

And for the record, while I may brandish a weapon every now and then – but I’ve never actually shot anyone over Borday (not for lack of trying – because I tried once SEVERAL times to shoot the same skanky club ho who was RUDE enough to try and move in on Borday with me right there).

So now, what is the appropriate behavior for jealousy in Second Life?

Have YOU ever been jealous in Second Life?

I’ve been lucky..and for the most part, Mr. Moo has accepted my jealous ways and to a point even finds it a little endearing. While he’s not as publicly jealous as I am, he’s had his moments.

But..we’re a couple.

I’ve seen jealousy in SL over people that do NOT have an established relationship.

Guys hateful of attached girls..girls spiteful over attached guys.

And the things that go on. Rumors, vicious behavior griefing, yada yada.

But here’s the thing..it takes two to tango. Yeah, someone hits on your SO. But..it’s up to them to rebuff. So why is it we spend our time punishing the initiator? Because they opened our eyes to what we may have been trying to look away from? Because they showed us something in our SO that we didn’t want to admit existed?

Ponder that.

Jealousy..it’s a funny thing that doesn’t get enough credit, you know?

After all..it did make the top seven in the list of sins.



XOXO,

B

What Type of Weather Are You?

You Are Wind

Strong and overpowering A force to be reckoned with, no one dares cross you You have the power to change everything around you You are best known for: your wrath Your dominant state: commanding

What Type of Weather Are You?

What Popsicle Are you?

You Are a Lime Flavored Popsicle

You are an outrageous person. For you, summer is all about going crazy - even if it means getting in trouble. You are daring and adventurous. You have a real taste for the edgier things in life. A true wild child, there's no hope of you ever slowing down. You've got too much sass and spunk to ever behave.

What Flavor Popsicle Are You?

Fashion Showcase: Witchy Woman Designs

So if you've never met Beverly Zauberflote, you're missing out. Witchy Woman Designs is my favorite furniture guru. Let me put it this way, I can sell WWD out of my house because it's filled with it!

I recently sat in the main store at Dee with Bev chatting when people walked by. And I started selling. Like a used car salesman - let me tell you. LOL

Why? Because I believe that good designers..and good PEOPLE..deserve my best effort. And Bev's good people.

Besides..how many people can you say.."Can you make a..wind chime/picnic table/bbq grill/beach bed?" to and actually get a "yes"?

She's constantly blowing me away with her amazing designs, colors and ideas.

Sales went really well at WWD's showcase, and I'm really happy to say that some of Bev's new items (the Blissie Beach Bed and the Murphy Bed) have gotten great exposure - as they should.

So if you haven't been, grab a TP from me or IM Bev herself. :) It's totally worth it.

Meeting her is totally worth it.



XOXO,
B

Fashion Showcase: Charisma

Well, if you didn't know about Charisma, then you haven't really hung around with us much.

Sapphire Tomorrow is the mind behind Charisma - with a sexy blend of goth and rock, it's a great store to check out.

The outfit I bought was such a hit, my good friend Keeeemala bought one too!

DJ Borday rocked out his sexy outfit and the turnout was good!

If you haven't caught Charisma yet, why not? There are two stores open now! Git!

XOXO,

B

Fashion Showcase: Amplify

Holy cow-crap, Batman! I forgot to update my blog about the recent showcases!

Well, let me be 100% honest. The showcase for Amplify was AMAZING. So insanely amazing that I never had a moment to take pictures. I know, can you believe it?

Tinker Hax came in and PACKED every inch of the club with goods for sale - outfits, tats and more. I was so blown away and THRILLED.

The sales went well, I believe. Everyone was thrilled and in LOVE with her creations, I've actually had requests for her to come back to the Hive!

If you've never been, you're missing out. :) So grab me in world and I'll be happy to give you a LM, or search Amplify - Tinker also owns a punk club, so check that out as well.

Maybe if we're lucky she'll come back for an encore showcase?

:)


XOXO,

B