Where In the World is Blissie Boucher?

Kinda feel like I'm stuck in a constant state of AFK. I log in, and get lost doing something else..and by the time I remember I'm logged in and come back..everyone else is gone.

When did it happen that I could not log into SL for days at a time and not miss it at all?

I miss my friends, sure. But the need to be a part of SL keeps fading..

Well..drop me an offline IM, I'm always happy to chat on Google Talk. Unless I don't like you. Then please don't.



XOXO,
B

The Girl Can't Help It..

Came on the radio..stuck in my head. :) Fabulous - I love it. One of my fave songs ever.





XOXO,
B

Nothing on the TV....

So I don't log into SL a whole lot these days. I pop in and out usually. And when I'm not hiding out at a club or gig, I'm standing still in my rezz location IMing.

For the first time tonight, I went down to the bottom of my rainforest dome (yes, that's where I live) and sat on my couch to watch my SL tv.

In that tv..there are a ton of pictures from my last 3 (soon to be 4!) years in Second Life.

Some pictures make me smile, some make me laugh..and of course, there are those that make me a little sad.

You see, in my time in SL, a lot of people have come and gone.

But none will ever bother me so much as those that leave my life, but don't leave SL. Some I've made the hard decision to unfriend. Others have chosen to unfriend me. And then there's the rare few that we still see each other on our friends list, but no words are ever spoken.

I guess, just as with RL, people drift apart. Priorities change, lives change, yada yada. Maybe the following is true:

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.


~Author Unknown

I guess, I'll just have to believe that.

I've put the TV back into my inventory for now - because maybe it's time I sorted through those endless pictures and weeded out the ones that sting. The truth is, more of them make me smile than anything else. Adventures, silly nights and of course, the amazing shots of my outfits. LOL!

But on the very SUPER bright side, my SL brother, Deylan, has chosen to return to SL. In his absence, we did keep in touch - thankfully.

I guess when some people exit, others make their return.

:) Wouldn't that be ideal?

Hope you all had a safe and healthy Labor Day Weekend!



XOXO,
B

Happy Birthday Dear Dad

Didn't think this day would come - but it did. :)

Thank you for giving me another day with my dad.



B

Nina Brandenburg Sings....

Okay, please pardon the profanity...

However.

Nina totally fucking KILLED it on Saturday night when she performed Lady Gaga's ballad, "Speechless".

I mean..she was so BEYOND fantastic..I feel like I should have recorded it to add to my iPod!

Don't know the song?

:) Educate yourselves, kids.

Best live SL performer EVER. Thanks, Nina!

Too Funny

"Livejournal is a site where people who don't have any friends can spend hours writing fucking inane journal entries and then pretend that they have friends who want to read them. It's a great system because it keeps the loonies off the goddamn streets. With Livejournal around, you can read about some guy who is complaining that Cap'n Crunch slices open the roof of his mouth when he eats it. If Livejournal didn't exist, you would be walking down the street and meet the same guy screaming at the top of his lungs and trying to stab you in the face with a hammer."

-- from "Chris" at somethingawful.com

Where the Wild Things Are..

Lying in my bed I hear the clock tick and think of you
Caught up in circles
Confusion is nothing new
Flashback, warm nights
Almost left behind
Suitcase of memories
Time after

Sometimes you picture me
I'm walking too far ahead
You're calling to me, I can't hear
What you've said
Then you say, "go slow"
I fall behind
The second hand unwinds

Chorus:
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I'll be waiting
Time after time
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I will be waiting (I'll be waiting)
Time after time

After my picture fades and darkness has
Turned to gray
Watching through windows
you're wondering if I'm OK
Secrets stolen from deep inside
The drum beats out of time

If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I'll be waiting
Time after time

You say "go slow"
I fall behind
The second hand unwinds

Chorus:
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I'll be waiting
Time after time
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you I will be waiting (I'll be waiting)
Time after time (Time after time)


Time after time
Time after time
Time after time
Time after time
Time after time
Time after time
Time after
Time after

Woot!

S'all I got to say, yo.

:)


XOXO,
B

Starting Over

First of all, let me just say a genuine thank you to US troops around the world for all that they do and all that they stand for. I hope you had a wonderful 4th of July (I say it in the past tense because it's 1 AM for me - so the 4th is over).

I was lucky enough to get to spend some Sunday down time with my bestie, the lovely Beverly Zauberflote. It was nice, just being able to hang out and chit chat (not that she's not subjected to my constant chatter on a regular basis). But usually I'm wrapped up in something else or focused on something else..and so I was really happy we got to just goof off together.



And hanging out with Bev got me to thinking.

How do we make it through?

How do we, as normal human beings, make it through everything life hands (or throws) us?

I think, on a very basic level, it becomes fight or flight.

Some people choose to kill their avis and start over.

And there are other people. People like me, who choose to fight..who choose to accept things the way they are and push through.

It's confusing, I know.

Let me give you a hypothetical example:

Meet Second Life avi, Jane Doe. Jane Doe meets and falls in love with SL avi, John Dee. What Jane doesn't know is that John has a girlfriend on the side. Until one day Jane busts John in a lie and finds out he's living an illicit double life with a whole SL family and prim babies. Jane's friends find out, and it's now the talk of SL. Profile drama, IM gossip. You name it.

Jane's faced with two choices.

She can remain as Jane Doe..and move on. She can wait for the gossip to die down and she can, as they say, roll with the SL punches and hope that normalcy resumes (well, as normal as SL life can be).

OR

Jane can kill her avi off, sell her land and create a new avi who never has to deal with any of Jane's old life. She can meet and marry a new SL guy without ever having to address the old one.

Here's the thing, though....

How does one forget who they are? How do you detach yourself, the user, from Jane, the avi? How is that possible at ALL? How do you "forget" Jane's friends, her enemies, her loves, her hates, her inventory, her EXPERIENCES? Try as you might, I don't think you really ever can.

Jane is as much a part of you as you are a part of her.

Jane's fooling herself if she thinks that she can walk away and become Lorna Doe and never think about Jane again.

Do you never speak to your friends again? Do you become your old friend's friends....as a new avi?

See, to me..there IS no starting over.

Just pushing on.

It's like real life in a way.

Yes, you have your shitty times, and yes, you have the people that gnaw at your insides. But the thing is..you grow..and you move on.

You stay on as Jane, and realize that the things you thought you'd never survive..you will survive. Sure it'll suck for a while - whatever it is - but when you get through it and you look back, you say to yourself..

Damn that was some learning experience.

:) Hopefully, that's what you'll be able to say.

So.....

To anyone who's thinking about starting over, let me just explain that I'm not saying DON'T start over. I'm just saying..what's the point? You'll survive the whatever..and be okay.

But that's just my humble opinion, kids.

:) Have a fabulous night.



XOXO,
Bliss

Saturday Dare

Inspired by a bucket of frozen margaritas and some awesome beach time.

Put on your favorite song..

Turn the volume all the way up...

And sing the hell out of it.

:) Doesn't matter is cats and dogs sing with you - rock it!

Happy Saturday!


XOXO,
Bliss